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To be put off by this or just banter?

78 replies

Wasabihelp · 17/06/2022 00:49

Been having a flirty chat with a friend of a friend and they made a couple of comments which I’m not sure how to take...

We were joking around about not knowing how to live off without certain apps and they said “Omg what you’re thick as shit” when I jokingly said I didn’t know how to do something obvious - this is very much their sense of humour but seemed pretty abrupt. Laughed it off though.

we then both swapped photos of an experience we’d recently been on. Mine was flattering and his was nice too. I said how good he looked on his and he said “hmm 4/10” re mine to which I said “harsh” - he then said “sorry you look great! Just thought you were fishing”

I think the second one did get me a bit because the first is a blunt joke, the second just makes me feel disingenuous for sharing anything where I might seem anything other than modest :S

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Aquamarine1029 · 17/06/2022 00:57

He sounds like an immature shithead. I wouldn't be impressed.

Autreete · 17/06/2022 01:01

What expérience?

Autreete · 17/06/2022 01:02

Also, he sounds annoying as hell

Original poster
Wasabihelp · 17/06/2022 01:04

Just photos of ourselves at a famous local attraction

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Original poster
Wasabihelp · 17/06/2022 01:04

He has been great otherwise, we have really clicked (I thought)

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Mthe · 17/06/2022 01:06

He sounds very immature. It's annoying you now, imagine how much more annoying and demoralising it would be in a relationship listening to him put you down.

IdiotCreatures · 17/06/2022 01:07

Do a search on Negging. And don't plan on taking it any further with this prince amongst men.
Jokes are meant to be funny.

Autreete · 17/06/2022 01:07

What does he mean by he thought you were fishing?

How long have you guys been talking?
He might just be super awkward.
Talked to someone like that on a dating app but his crude and immature humour just put me off

alexdgr8 · 17/06/2022 01:10

why bother with someone like that.
move on. don't lower your standards.
good luck.

Original poster
Wasabihelp · 17/06/2022 01:12

I think he was implying that I knew it was a flattering photo so was kind of trying my best to shoehorn it into the convo? Bit of a reach that.

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Autreete · 17/06/2022 01:13

Ohhh, well, what a weird guy.
You deserve much better

KettrickenSmiled · 17/06/2022 01:31

Wasabihelp · 17/06/2022 01:12

I think he was implying that I knew it was a flattering photo so was kind of trying my best to shoehorn it into the convo? Bit of a reach that.

He imagined you were playing games, because he is a gameplayer.
He's judged you by his own standards OP - & they are lacking.

Plus - “Omg what you’re thick as shit” - is he 14?

VallarMorghulis · 17/06/2022 01:43

He's negging you, OP. Throw him back.

AngelCakes87 · 17/06/2022 01:46

Jokes are meant to be funny, he sounds like an arsehole

mrsfrancinemeowington · 17/06/2022 04:13

Negging

Bin.

miraveile · 17/06/2022 04:21

Dump and run

Longt · 17/06/2022 04:24

Ewwwww. Babe listen to yourself. You ARE put off, don’t talk yourself back into it. This man is no good. ----

ExitChasedByABee · 17/06/2022 04:26

IdiotCreatures · 17/06/2022 01:07

Do a search on Negging. And don't plan on taking it any further with this prince amongst men.
Jokes are meant to be funny.

My thoughts exactly.

fontime · 17/06/2022 04:31

So early doors he has opportunity to flatter you and he chooses to insult you instead and then tells you it's because you were fishing for compliments. He doesn't sound very nice tbh if this is him trying to make a good impression.

Player001 · 17/06/2022 04:34

I read this as him being completely full of himself. He believes you are totally into him and he can treat you like shit and you'll take it.

Run

MrsTerryPratchett · 17/06/2022 04:55

fontime · 17/06/2022 04:31

So early doors he has opportunity to flatter you and he chooses to insult you instead and then tells you it's because you were fishing for compliments. He doesn't sound very nice tbh if this is him trying to make a good impression.

Added to this any man who wants a woman to lack confidence, is probably an arse. An arse who goes out with women with low self esteem. Probably because he's not very funny.

ActionNeeded · 17/06/2022 05:03

What an asshat.

I do recommend reading the game though (and the truth! Haha) quite the eye-opener.

FuoriComeUnBalcone · 17/06/2022 05:07

I've never understood why some women seem to enjoy/put up with this kind of "banter". Surely in the early stages you want them to make you feel good about yourself, not the opposite!

GetThatHelmetOn · 17/06/2022 05:08

Throw him back, he us making you feel bad about yourself to show he is “better”. Not worth risking your self esteem for unless you are truly and utterly desperate and even so, it is not worth it.

BeggyMitchell · 17/06/2022 05:09

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Negging