My husband is more often than not calling me names, some not so nice, but ive learnt to live with it. However today, we were talking about holidays as we have had a disaster one in Jamacia where he had food poisoning for 2 weeks. We said we would go back to basics and back to Europe. I do everything for him and do not ask for a lot off him. I said he could choose this time as more often than not I plan them, all i asked is that we dont get a pool that is packed in as I get anxiety and dont like to be cooped in and that i have 20 kilos luggage, which im more than happy to pay the extra. His reply was stop being an arsehole and be grateful and 15 kilos will do. Am I over reacting but feel hurt that it has become normal to talk to me this way, when i asked him not to say that to me he stared mimicking me and told me to grow up.