Name Calling

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My husband is more often than not calling me names, some not so nice, but ive learnt to live with it. However today, we were talking about holidays as we have had a disaster one in Jamacia where he had food poisoning for 2 weeks. We said we would go back to basics and back to Europe. I do everything for him and do not ask for a lot off him. I said he could choose this time as more often than not I plan them, all i asked is that we dont get a pool that is packed in as I get anxiety and dont like to be cooped in and that i have 20 kilos luggage, which im more than happy to pay the extra. His reply was stop being an arsehole and be grateful and 15 kilos will do. Am I over reacting but feel hurt that it has become normal to talk to me this way, when i asked him not to say that to me he stared mimicking me and told me to grow up.

Hello OP. We're going to move your thread to the Relationships board now. Best wishes.

Why would you want to learn to live with your husband calling you names? Would you accept that from a friend, or me?
By his behaviour he’s showing you he doesn’t respect you, doesn’t care about you. Why are you staying with him?

Why have you learnt to live with this?. Did your mother do that too re her husband?. What did you learn about relationships from childhood onwards?.

You would not tolerate this from a friend surely so why are you accepting of this abusive treatment from your husband?. He has no respect for you whatsoever.

What example of relationships were you set as a child? Did your parents respect each other? Did they respect you?

A healthy relationship is respectful, without fail. Why are you 'learning to live with' disrespect? Do you think you have to put up with it?

My husband is more often than not calling me names, some not so nice, but ive learnt to live with it.

Oh that was so sad to read I must say.

You're worth so much more OP. This isn't about the holiday anymore, this is about you begin blatantly disrespected by someone who is suppose to love and adore you. You need to leave now.

Really sorry to hear this. It sounds like he is really nasty to you and you deserve much better. So I don't think you're overreacting at all. I hope that things can get better for you, either with him or without him. (I'm not sure there's much chance of him becoming nicer, sadly.)

You don't have to live with constant abuse OP.

It's verbal abuse and you shouldn't put up with it. You deserve better.