Partner of 8mths or so, wants to move in in next 6 mths to a year which is a good timescale. Going well and he's a great man in many respects. He has a job he's held for a very long time and lives alone with his teenager.
We however do very little together not been out for dinner more than once or to the cinema ever. Played pool or been to pubs maybe 8 times and only if I arrange things. Generally he comes over and we have dinner and play baord games or watch a film, fine as I have a young kid.
However, I recently started to push to go out more on child free days and it turns out he cant due to lack of money and we only do stuff if I pay for us both.
I was suprised as he earns well and has same disposible income as me each month after bills. Turns out he gets through almost 600 quid in 10 days leaving him with under 60 quid till payday for the next two weeks. He often borrows from mates at end of the month. He says its just on food and snacks. He dosnt run a car.
I know everyone does stuff differently but is that normal spending pattern or does it scream addiction of some kind?
I don't wnat his money or to be involved but I need to be able to do stuff and have a life and esp if planning to Co habit.