Aand another thread about husbands shouting. Dh came I in a good mood and joined in with me and the teens, chatting. He’d bought the teens a treat and all was good, until..I mentioned we’d got some diy building stuff delivered and I’d moved one bit but left the rest ( in plastic) on the grass. I couldn’t lift it, and it actually did not occur to me to seperate the pieces and unpack them. What was I thinking? Dh went mad, as it got rained on.understandably, but I just think he goes mad for too long. The kids can hear him yelling at me, which can’t be good, and even though I say ‘ that’s enough I get it’ he is like Victorian dad..’ why would you do that? You don’t care about money, is that it? I just want to know why you didn’t move it. Why didn’t the delivery man move it?’ On and on. My anxiety goes through the roof. I can’t help thinking it’s ok to be cross, but not to go on asking stupid questions. Of course I didn’t deliberately leave it out because I don’t care about money. He’s the one that spends the stuff.
sorry, just shocked at how I feel now. I feel anxious, battered ( mentally) and I can feel another notch in my carefully built self esteem crumbling away to be replaced by a bit more anxiety. Bum.