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Do you believe in law of attraction/thoughts create your reality?

137 replies

raincheckrosemary · 29/05/2022 15:58

Do you believe you manifest everything, so for example a lot of it says you choose your romantic partner and attract that cause of your thoughts - what do you think?

do you think you create every bad thing that happens to you?

OP posts:
Robin233 · 03/06/2022 14:02

@raincheckrosemary

I wish I was like this so badly!

^

CBT would certainly help with that.

raincheckrosemary · 03/06/2022 14:05

@Robin233 is CBT something you do with a professional? I’m overseas in a non English speaking country so if I could do it myself it would help

OP posts:
Robin233 · 03/06/2022 15:41

@raincheckrosemary
Yes I saw someone every other week, having 7 sessions.
What I found helpful was they gave practical exercises to do.
It helps you to use brain / thoughts in ways that make you feel calm and focused.
There is none of the rehashing of the past. ( though there is a bit in the initial assessment. )

Picatso · 03/06/2022 16:31

Just a combination of dressed up victim blaming and a “wellness” take on spirituality that’s motivated by commercial gain and bears no relation to any respectable spiritual tradition or scientific method.

Ladyofclass · 21/11/2022 22:21

A load of crap. The amount of times I have took action, strongly visualised for certain things and just got shitted on- literally! . I am positive person but awful things happen regardless of mindset and every week I write a gratitude list. After watching my partner's mum die of a awful cancer death, one of the most positive people I have met, cancer was just awful and she kept saying I will get better, visualising and positive thinking. Lung cancer and didn't even smoke died within a few months and it was caught early. Died at 72. She was such a special lady to me and helped so many people.
Interestingly my grandad who was a negative person always wanted to just die and very depressed, heavy smoker beat cancer no problems at 70, died at 82. Manifestion what bollocks. According to the law of attraction she should be alive, I wouldn't of miscarried and so on. Crap happens regardless.

JaneJeffer · 21/11/2022 23:35

JaneJeffer · 30/05/2022 13:40

No I don't

Still no

Skethylita · 22/11/2022 05:33

Yes, visualisation works, but not in the miracle kind of way. It only works if the consequence of visualisation is conscious or unconscious action towards your goals.

It's best to think about it as a mindset.

So, for example, after my acrimonious divorce I was barely left with anything - he got the house, most of my savings had gone into finding a rental within school vicinity, my job was (and still is) shite. But I visualised my mind was set on owning my own house again, with a small, but functional garden and enough storage space, sutiable for me and my kids.

That was the visualisation part and it became ingrained in everything I did. I saved like mad, forced a minor promotion at work (not just by working my behind off, but actually had HR kick my boss's arse when she tried to refuse it), took on some extra bits on the side, started looking and viewing and I am now in exactly the kind of house I wanted to be in, with a reasonable mortgage, too.

I am now in the process of changing jobs and am visualising exactly what I want (a promotion which gets me the job I have done better than my colleagues who are already in the role). But the visualisation alone won't do it, so I have also acquired the experience I need to move forward, am volunteering for projects at work to gain the little extra, and am applying for anything that comes up, which carries that job title. I am sure that it's a numbers game as experienced and competent people in my area of expertise are rare. Where the visualisation helps is with the confidence I now have at interviews.

But I've done this all my life. Visualisation is, essentially, just another way of obsessing over something until you get it. I've done a lot with it - smashed grades at school, moved countries, overcome shit stages in life, aced single parenthood, now the house and career - relationships are next.

Pythonese · 22/11/2022 05:43

No.

MrsDooDaa · 22/11/2022 08:10

I agree with @Skethylita.

I believe that visualising can help you achieve your goals, but those goals need to be realistic in the first place.

So visualising that I run faster than Usain Bolt - no.

But visualising that I can get a promotion at work - yes.

RosettaStormer · 22/11/2022 09:00

I manifested something g huge many years ago by using a book about flaw of attraction. Long before the Secret which is badly written and commercial. It does work but just wishing won’t work. It is more complex than many people assume.
Emotions do manifest in the body. I trained as a reflexologist at one point the trainer told us often illness shows up two years after a traumatic event .
Books like the Biology of Belief explain this clearly. We are a holistic whole made up of body mind and emotion. They all impact on each other. Chinese medicine understands how the body system works and how organs are linked to specific emotions and conditions, as well as the skeleton and blood etc.
Doctors don’t understand any of this. They only know how to dole out drugs which are made for profit.

RosettaStormer · 22/11/2022 09:00

Law of Attraction!!

ItsaMetalBand · 22/11/2022 16:35

raincheckrosemary · 03/06/2022 13:30

I wish I was like this so badly!

I was exactly like you, right down to imagining things that could go wrong and the more outlandish it would become. Then anxiety would kick in that the disaster would happen... and so on. A spiral of anxiety. I obsessively checked horoscopes but at the same time they were causing depression because if everything in my life is exactly like everyone else in my starsign, then that made me feel even more useless about changing my life because what's the point if it's already predetermined for me?

Anyway, the way I did become a happy bubbly person was to get off the roundabout entirely. I got a bit of counselling which helped enormously and set me on the right track.

I now no longer believe in any kind of woo or spirituality. I don't believe in vibes or energy and if there's something good out there for me, then it's up to me to find it, not sit and wait for it to hit me on the head like a kipper. I don't even ironically read horoscopes. I am like milkywhitemoonlight describes. I won't do anything I don't want to do, but neither am I unhelpful or unkind - in fact, I'm the opposite. But I don't believe that just because I love someone strongly enough, that it's enough for both, or that if I'm lovely and helpful to someone they'll recognise my efforts and return the favour. I don't hanker after someone if they don't have feelings for me. I won't hang around someone bad for me and hope that they eventually recognise my worth because they wont.

I'm optimistic and friendly but I do use my commute in my car to 'brain dump' any anxiety - like the poster upthread explained, my brain is my safe space to explore various scenarios regarding a situation and try them on safe for size and then put them one by one back on the rack. Anything that doesn't get put on the rack, I bounce off DH. He's solidly calm and listens and has a way of putting perspective on my latest crisis that immediately calms me.

So in short, what changed me was a) counselling; b) stepping away from all kinds of woo stuff and c) changing how my brain space works.

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