I have been seeing a married man for 2.5 years. When I met him he told me his marriage was over a long time ago and he and his wife had not slept together for 5 years. 15 months ago I left my husband of 28 years for him and have been renting a house since. He told his wife 10 months ago that he had been seeing someone and he was leaving her. I think he expected his wife to break down and cry but she actually threw him out. (He is no saint, I know that, married 3 times and a confessed cheater). But he told me he loves me like he's never loved anyone before and wants to be with me. He lives with me at weekends and the odd day in the week. We spent Christmas and Easter at mine. Although his wife threw him out when he confessed to the affair, he went back to the marital home a couple of days later, his excuse was the property is jointly owed between them. He has delayed on the divorce (she started the proceedings) and neither has he sorted his finances out with her, neither has he given me a reason why not.
I did see a letter he had hid, from her solicitor. requesting yet again he gives financial disclosure. I also found a letter his wife had wrote to him, saying he has her blessing to leave the matrimonial home and set up home with me as she has had enough of his cheating, it wasn't a nasty letter, she wished him luck and hoped he had at last found the happiness he has been looking for the whole of their relationship (17 years, 10 of them married ones). So why will he not leave her and move in with me, am I wasting my time? Every time I ask him he clams up!