I want regular sex but not a relationship

[ButteredStrumpetWithJam]

I'm in my 50s and have realised I just don't have the headspace or time for a relationship, but I'm really missing sex and flirty male company. My ideal scenario would be a hot man who is on the other end of the phone to come round when I call for sex, do some chores, fuck me, feed me, then fuck off and leave me alone until the next time I call him for sex.

Seriously though, I'd love to meet up once a week maybe once a fortnight, they can cut the grass (or another job I hate), have something to eat (that they buy or prepare), have sex, and if they don't snore they can sleep over. Maybe sex in the morning then they leave. I've had this FWB scenario 3 times in my life and it worked well for me, but these were years ago and I feel out of touch with how to find one of these men now.

What's the most stress-free way of finding someone for this? Do I just go onto an OLD site and state what I'm looking for? I'm a bit concerned about my age making me "invisible" TBH, and I don't want someone married as I don't want to facilitate cheating, so any ideas please?

I agree the chores and cooking will be deal breakers tbh.
However, given your best bet for this is a young one, you might find the quality of their work is a bit substandard anyway. Ime young men are not particularly good at chores, tend to cook in a slapdash manner with poor ingredients and unecessary mess, and know very little about garden maintenance. Far better to let them do what they do best.

To my understanding men are horrible with chores even in relationships, why would they bother with OP’s chores?

Just to be clear, try and get them to do as much as you can, but I don’t really see them be willing…..

Am exactly in your situation. 51 and rampant as ever. Go on OLD. Since doing so, my stable of fwb is full.of quality men. Single. They pay when we go out, they don't want a LTR and are happy with this arrangement.

Then weed out the best one and carry on !😙

The availability of hot men for relationships is entirely different from the availability of hot men for sex though.
This is what I suspect @5128gap. If I was looking for a relationship/someone to marry I’d be considering the whole package, but with FWB the check list of wants is far more basic and doesn’t include financial security for example.

be prepared to audition a lot of them. Far too many men who think they're good at sex and can't take direction. Or think having a large cock = good in bed.
Tell me about it @EvenMoreFuriousVexation 🙄My last FWB looked lovely naked, had a big cock (which I’m not actually into, I prefer them average size), but he was rather lazy in bed

Having a man fuck you and fuck off probably won't make you feel great, regardless of whether you fancy him back.
@secsee when I say I want them to fuck off after I didn’t mean immediately. My initial post was a bit tongue in cheek and I’ve explained what I want a bit better (I hope) in subsequent posts. I just don’t want someone who wants, needs, or expects lots of attention in between meets eg texting every day, or expects to stay at mine all weekend eating my food and drinking my booze like my last proper BF 🙄

That's encouraging to hear 😃Which site did you find the best @Signoramarella?

Definitely bumble. Plenty of decent solvent normal men. Currently dating 3 .all very wealthy, very charming, very filthy.

as a 40 something male in decent shape (go gym, keeps active in general) that knows his way around a strimmer and mower and also what buttons to press to make a females toes curl, I think this is a smashing idea, Id love to have an arrangement like that, everyone wins, you get a lovely cut lawn, an afternoon orgasm and a lovely lunch, then get left alone to carry on with your day. I dont see the issues in you finding a suitor.

I think you're going to draw a few creeps out of the woodwork here OP

this wasnt an offer to the OP, I was giving a males opinion of saying it sounded like an offer she shouldnt have issues getting someone to fulfil your requirements. Of course shes gonna get all the usual goons also wanting to apply at the same time, thats part and parcel of any type of online dating (and RL dating)

Dont forget to add weeding to the garden duties, nothing worse than a freshly cut lawn thats got weeds poking through.

@ButteredStrumpetWithJam I know you've recieved some slack for this comment, and maybe its not the most appropriate for a mumsnet channel, however what a conversation. I think you're fine to ask for what you want. I mean its genuine, no fucking about. Now finding that man will be another story... I do wonder if you ever found him? Sounds idyllic to me, most people will be married or in long term relationships so mortified at your request. I think its brill! Good on ya!