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Oscarbin · 18/05/2022 18:51

Hello everyone

Been seeing someone about a year and a half. Wasn't the best relationship, was always put second best, to his friends.

Was ignored last week for a few days but he got in touch, texting was a bit hitty missy, but wasn't bothered.

Now I have been blocked on facebook, no messages answered, to be fair I haven't messages since Monday,

I have been completely ghosted by a 41 year old male. I probably know he has someone else, but god it hurts, my head is just thinking "wtf"

He once ghosted me for a few weeks but I was stupid enough to go back, but I was never blocked.

Has this happened to anyone before?

Nice answers only please?

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Oscarbin · 28/05/2022 04:28

allboysherebutme · 27/05/2022 22:45

Personality disorder. X

Yeah I thought some sort of avoidance anxious thing going on

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newnewnew42 · 29/05/2022 17:52

@Oscarbin I had this done after a 5yr relationship. Broke me. So imagine how shitty I’m feeling when I think it’s happening again now..is it possible for there to be a grown up man out there?!

fedup078 · 29/05/2022 18:05

My marriage broke down for totally different reasons and I ended it but it's the previous relationship where I was love bombed, future faked and then ghosted which puts me off ever bothering again now.

mumieone · 29/05/2022 22:03

Charliec12 · 22/05/2022 09:33

How can you look at someone’s blocked list? I can only see my own on facebook

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I've dated a few narcs. They are v jealous. They ask to swop phones and check your messages and you check Thiers for 5 mins ...if you agree (go straight to Thier blocked list on the phone and WhatsApp).

See who features. Some of this people at the top of the lust will have only been blocked for the evening while at yours 😂😂 as it's the other iron

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Oscarbin · 30/05/2022 05:26

So I had a date last night! I am up this early with beer fear. I think this one is another narc!

So it's a no from me 🤢

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mumieone · 30/05/2022 07:19

Strawberrydelight55 · 19/05/2022 10:31

Very similar.. my boyfriend was obsessed with his ex. Obsessed with validation got distracted so easily by other women. I was 15 years younger and attractive enough for him. But nah still wasn't enough. He'd flirt with his grow daughters friends mother. His brothers exes. His ex wife's sister. Women from his school days he hasn't seen for 30 years. Plus he's on tinder and I don't doubt he uses wattsapp etc.

Commitment phobe..he'd talk shout the future when he needed to. When he was on a high usually or if he had just had some money and was feeling relived.. but he didn't even want to talk single of Facebook. I remember saying after 4 months I'd like to put the relationship on Facebook. He suggested I was doing it from a jealous place. His reason was I asked him why he kept droning on about Katie from his school days at me.

My Ex is 48 and has no friends that he sees. His whole family have cut him off. He's screwed up his relationship with his grown up kids. He's just an all round dramary man.

One of the final disagreements we had was about his ex and him exchanging messages again. But also I realised he gave his dog more affection than me. He'd wake up in the morning and kiss his dog and hug him. We were no longer having sex because he back hurt too much. But he was able to get on his hands and knees to lean over his dog for 10 minutes and roll about. I used to sit there and get jealous that he was staring at his dog with love and I hadn't had a snog for a month.

Happy to go through this with you. I'm always here for a chat. Are you feeling OK? I'm asking as mine was quite nasty either words and lied alot. He wasn't good for me. I am still struggling. It's not always easy

This man has mental issues. He shouldn't even be dating he needs help not a gf

You deserve better. Just block him completely and try hard to move on

mumieone · 30/05/2022 07:22

Oscarbin · 18/05/2022 18:51

Hello everyone

Been seeing someone about a year and a half. Wasn't the best relationship, was always put second best, to his friends.

Was ignored last week for a few days but he got in touch, texting was a bit hitty missy, but wasn't bothered.

Now I have been blocked on facebook, no messages answered, to be fair I haven't messages since Monday,

I have been completely ghosted by a 41 year old male. I probably know he has someone else, but god it hurts, my head is just thinking "wtf"

He once ghosted me for a few weeks but I was stupid enough to go back, but I was never blocked.

Has this happened to anyone before?

Nice answers only please?

He isn't and never has been your boyfriend.

This is called community pee pee. It's for anyone out there who wants it

He doesn't deserve you. Don't make it easy to hook up

If you want sex just get it somewhere else. There are enough clowns online dating claiming they want relationships to get sex from you you can take up one of those offers.

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Oscarbin · 30/05/2022 12:22

I remember once saying to him "it's like your back to normal" he was so nice at the start.

He ignored me after that comment if you can remember right

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BalloonsAndWhistles · 30/05/2022 13:30

Yeah I was ghosted once. The bastard still had the cheek to have not one but two shags before sneaking out in the middle of the night never to be seen again! I mean that’s scummy, right?!! We’d been seeing each other for three months so not a one night stand or anything.

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Oscarbin · 30/05/2022 14:21

Why do they even do it? Like why?
I really don't get it

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Oscarbin · 30/05/2022 14:36

I've came off all dating sites, I can't be bothered with it.

I have chronic anxiety off the drink, and the lad from last night is keep texting me still.

Oh god! I can't remember getting home 😂🤣

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Backtoblack1 · 30/05/2022 20:39

Hangover anxiety is the worst! Hope you feel better soon x

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Oscarbin · 30/05/2022 21:21

Getting there I am away to bed! I haven't ghosted this bloke I was very adult and said I would like to remain friends x

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Oscarbin · 02/06/2022 13:26

Think I am back to normal now hahaha x

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Oscarbin · 03/06/2022 12:05

I'm
Not back to normal, unless it's depression still from the drink. I feel like I miss him! But unsure what a miss x

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