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Find my iPhone

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whatth · 15/05/2022 08:45

My DP went out last night with friends. He was very late back so I quickly checked Find My iPhone to see if he was in his way. We both do this if either of us are later than anticipated. His location early in the evening was showing as in a town 50 miles away. He has just got a new phone. When he got back I asked him about it and he looked surprised and said he'd no idea why and had never been to that address. I checked it again this morning and his phone was showing him as at home. Can this happen with iPhone locations?

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AverageJoan · 15/05/2022 08:46

It could jump around slightly while trying to ascertain the GPS but my guess is that he's lying OP

MrsRobinsonsHandprints · 15/05/2022 08:47

If you need to check up on your husband the relationship is over anyway.

SophSoSo · 15/05/2022 08:48

If it’s accurate this morning chances are it was accurate last night.

Mine has been a few hundred meters out before but never 50 miles.

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whatth · 15/05/2022 08:48

Thanks. I just can't think of any other explanation either. We've just started making a real effort with each other after some problems. I just don't know what to think.

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whatth · 15/05/2022 08:49

MrsRobinson I explained that I was just worried about him being so late so checked if he was on his way.

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Lovemusic33 · 15/05/2022 08:53

He’s lying, pretty sure these things are pretty accurate and wouldn’t be that far out on location.

MrsRobinsonsHandprints · 15/05/2022 08:56

worried about him being late

He is an adult out with friends why dies he have a curfew? Why were you checking his location earlier in the evening

Checking like this is a weird form of control. You will justify it as being worried but the reality is checking up on him doesn't change anything if he is at risk.

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whatth · 15/05/2022 09:01

Again I was not checking his location earlier in the evening. When I checked the location late last night it showed his location in that town for 6.15 earlier. NOT me checking at any point during the evening itself because I had absolutely no concerns.

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whatth · 15/05/2022 09:03

Thanks very much for making me feel even worse. My actual question was about Find my iPhone possibly not working properly due to it being a new phone.

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SophSoSo · 15/05/2022 09:04

whatth · 15/05/2022 09:03

Thanks very much for making me feel even worse. My actual question was about Find my iPhone possibly not working properly due to it being a new phone.

It being a new phone has no relevance.

if the phone is on, signed in to find my iPhone then it will work.

Do you have any other reasons to be suspicious? Does he have any links to the town he was in?

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whatth · 15/05/2022 09:05

SophSoSo the only link is that he had a relationship with a woman there before we met.

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whatth · 15/05/2022 09:08

He still has his old iPhone and this was the one showing as in the town. The new phone didn't have location services on.

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HollowTalk · 15/05/2022 09:09

I got one of those emails which tells me all the places I've been to throughout the month. It never misses anywhere out and it never says I've been somewhere that I haven't. I think I would believe the iPhone actually.

icelollycraving · 15/05/2022 09:09

I’ve found it v accurate. I use it with my husband and son. If the signal isn’t great then it can buffer a little and then the journey spurs on in leaps and bounds. Not had it show wrong place.

Clovacloud · 15/05/2022 09:15

My family use Find my iPhone all the time to see if someone is on the way home. So I don’t know why people are getting at you over it.

Anyway I’ve not had it ever go 50 miles out wrong, but it went through a phase where DD’s kept going 3 miles out and had her in the local river, which scared the crap out of me the first time! So they can be wrong.

Minfilia · 15/05/2022 09:15

You can spoof your location using an app, to show you being miles away from where you actually are (DD has done this to freak her friend out on Snapchat when she went on holiday and DD put herself in the same hotel)

But otherwise it works on wifi signal AFAIK, so I can’t see why it would place someone 50 miles out. Usually it’s a 1-3 mile radius if the signal is bad.

TidyDancer · 15/05/2022 09:16

I have my sister on mine for safety reasons from when we were younger and both single. I've definitely seen hers as a mile or so out before and in a residential area she'd never been to. I don't think I've ever seen it more wrong than that though and it usually updates itself quickly.

It does sound a bit dodgy OP.

cottagegardenflower · 15/05/2022 09:17

MrsRobinsonsHandprints · 15/05/2022 08:47

If you need to check up on your husband the relationship is over anyway.

Oh don't be so ridiculous. Someone is late and you check to see if they are on their way home, get an anomalous location and ask a question?

pensionconfusion · 15/05/2022 09:18

I have used this with my daughter and the most that it has been out is about 3 miles when there is a poor signal. Find my iPhone does say at these times that it is approx and she is somewhere in the blue circle. If there is no blue circle then she is where the phone says she is. I find the app to be very accurate.

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whatth · 15/05/2022 09:22

Thanks everyone. He is saying that his old phone whose location is still on, was in his drawer all night at home. His new phone that he had with him, didn't have location turned on. He's got angry with me now. How can a phone in his drawer show him in this town but this morning show him at home?

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LostSocksBrigade · 15/05/2022 09:25

Is he using both phones? And the old one is the one that showed up there? If he's not being honest about it and it says home this morning I'd be worried too OP. Sounds like a secret phone situation if you're not aware he's using both.

SamphirethePogoingStickerist · 15/05/2022 09:26

You know something is not right. He will be angry that you 'snooped' but that is probably misdirection, to stop you asking.

You need a proper discussion. He needs to be honest. But that may not happen.

What do you want to happen?

LostSocksBrigade · 15/05/2022 09:26

Is there anything on the old phone? Problem is he might have wiped it if there is. Have you had any reason to wonder before?

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whatth · 15/05/2022 09:29

The reason the old phone is still running is that there is a feature on the new phone that doesn't work so I don't think that's suspicious. I've never worried about anything like this before. He seems genuinely perplexed about the situation and angry and upset that I would doubt him. I haven't got a clue what to do. He's always at home usually.

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CaperCaper · 15/05/2022 09:35

My opinion is that your spider senses have now been triggered and you'll need to keep an eye out for anything unusual. Go with the flow and agree that apple's find my iPhone isn't reliable.

Yes'm it could be a really bizarre malfunction but it's more likely he is up to something...