Find my iPhone

[whatth]

My DP went out last night with friends. He was very late back so I quickly checked Find My iPhone to see if he was in his way. We both do this if either of us are later than anticipated. His location early in the evening was showing as in a town 50 miles away. He has just got a new phone. When he got back I asked him about it and he looked surprised and said he'd no idea why and had never been to that address. I checked it again this morning and his phone was showing him as at home. Can this happen with iPhone locations?

Id do some further investigations here

Was the address a pub or restaurant or somebody's house?

Start googling

Likewise, I'm using my phone at home with location services. WiFi is currently on a vpn through work so my phone shows me as at work, 30 miles away.

I think something is off, certainly by the way he's reacting.

How would you react if your partner basically accused you of lying and cheating?

I'm not saying the situation is or isn't suspicious but surely being angry at an accusation like this isn't at all odd.

She didn't accuse him of anything. She simply told him she noticed the phone indicating that location. That he jumped to conclusions and got angry, thinking she was accusing him, says more about him than it does about her.

In my experience find my iPhone is always pretty accurate. It might jump about and show them on the next street but refreshing usually sorts this out.

I use find my phone from work to check my dc have made it home from school alive.

Consistently, one of my dc shows up a town across. There is no way she could be there, she's a child with no transportation. When she gets back home and her phone connects to the Wi-Fi it zooms back to her being at home. I've always assumed that there mist be a tower there that her phone has pinged.

He hasn't cheated on me before. Just previous partners. The location showed as a specific address in this town, even given a house number.

Find my has shown my children in the middle of the sea when they were at school before. Definitely around 40/50 miles away from where they should be!

I've generally waited 20 minutes or so and refreshed.

In a house? Probably with WiFi and or data? Not so much of a random mistake or result I suspect.

I check my hubby's location all the time. No issues in my relationship, it's just I wanted to know where he was!! Nothing wrong with that.

Never known 50mins out, 50metres yes, 50miles no!

It will occasionally show me on the next street over, but never miles out unless that’s where my battery died. That’s whether the phone is new or months/years out.

I have a friend who on stalk my friends, is apparently located near Slough but she actually lives near Falkirk. We’ve no idea how or why!

I think it’s a bit like when you log into something like Facebook and you get a message saying someone who lives 300 miles from you has just tried logging in with your details, but you know it’s you!!

you’ve obviously got doubts though OP and there must be a reason why you doubt him.

He’s cheated on previous partners? You’re sure he would never follow form with you?

Can his ex log into his icloud account? Or does she have any old devices which may still be logged in? Or possibly have sold or given one away? Or did he log in to his new phone with an old icloud account?

when you checked was it his actual phone showing the location, or just him? Have a look and see how many devices are showing on find my iphone.

logistically, could he have done it? To me it’s more likely there’s another login somewhere than someone driving 50 miles- so at least a 2 hour round trip? For a couple of hours and lying about it.

His old phone will work perfectly well if it's still linked to his Apple account. If it says he's 50 miles away , then chances are he was. I frequently use it to find my H when he's on his way back from somewhere a distance away and put dinner on and it's pretty accurate. Initially it might show the location the last time I checked and will usually then refresh within about 20 seconds

Mine once showed me as being about 30 miles away from where I actually was when DH checked mine. We use it a lot on each other when travelling to determine traffic and time due home.

SophSoSo the only link is that he had a relationship with a woman there before we met.

Sorry but it's not looking good. I think he was with her. Can you check on the address you mentioned and Google search to find a phone number perhaps?

Also he says his other phone was at home? Unless you can confirm that it was I think this is a complete lie!

Your posts about which phone it was are confusing but whether he had one or both phones with him how would be have got 50 miles away and back during the evening? Was he driving? The logistics would make we wonder about how accurate the location was.

Why do either of you delete he need to check? You’re adults and sometimes adults stay out later than they say they will.
doesnt it feel like being a teen at home being checked up on?

feel the need to check up not delete

I haven't rtft but for what it's worth, once when I was at work, my daughter text me to ask why I was in a completely different town, miles in the opposite direction. I wasn't, but Snapchat said I was. So it can happen. (Wasn't on an iPhone though).

People need to stop focusing on the fact she uses this app. It's not that usual and isn't the issue here.
The issue is him being angry and defensive over something that is quite strange.

We use the 360 app and I'm also in a tracking circle with some close friends. My friends husband is often located a few miles away from us even though we're all sat together!
An inaccuracy of 50miles is unusual but my DHs app did play up when he got a new phone but I think I it was just stuck at a previous location for a few days.

He's hiding something the anger is a defensive to get you to stop questioning about it , and of all the towns it had shown it just so happens to show a town where his ex lives ? I don't think so find my iPhone is really accurate id search through his phone

Check our the address online. If its his ex then that's too much of a coincidence

Nothing you did is a concern @whatth ignore the nonsense. These apps are common in partnerships.

What it's a concern is his phone showing 50 miles away, his anger at your confusion and his previous for cheating.

It does not look good!

Cheats have a high likelihood of repeat behaviour in subsequent relationships unless they've really done some work.

Feels very off! Sorry.

Jury is out on this one. If he takes the app off the phone and refuses to reinstall then I would be suspicious.

The above sounds something like straight out of the controlling man’s handbook.

I have never checked a tracking app for an adult and never will, not only because I think adults shouldn’t be tracked but also because situations like this arise.

He was defensive but most people would be if someone used the tracker to see where they were on a night out and accused them of being somewhere they weren’t.

If it says the exact house number then go and knock on the door but even then you’re not going to have proof that he was there last night.