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Find my iPhone

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whatth · 15/05/2022 08:45

My DP went out last night with friends. He was very late back so I quickly checked Find My iPhone to see if he was in his way. We both do this if either of us are later than anticipated. His location early in the evening was showing as in a town 50 miles away. He has just got a new phone. When he got back I asked him about it and he looked surprised and said he'd no idea why and had never been to that address. I checked it again this morning and his phone was showing him as at home. Can this happen with iPhone locations?

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whatth · 15/05/2022 14:59

Apologies for my bad wording. He didn't cheat on past partners, in fact he found his ex cheating. It's me that has been cheated on multiple times by ex partners. Also the ex from the other town was a long time ago and didn't go very far so no possibility of confusion over phones. He's still insisting he didn't go there.

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whatth · 15/05/2022 15:03

@Onwards22, I will say it again, I did not check up on where he was during the evening. He wasn't feeling that great and said he would probably be home early. I couldn't get him on text and so checked the app to see if he was travelling home. I have no suspicions and don't usually use the app when he goes anywhere. I'm not into that.

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Zemw · 15/05/2022 15:03

Doesn't look good OP.

youvegottenminuteslynn · 15/05/2022 15:05

The road is near an ex that is 50 miles away from where he said he was, his location is accurate the rest of the time, he was late back and he's angry that you're feeling worried about it. Occam's Razor for me I'm afraid.

girlmom21 · 15/05/2022 15:05

There's a way your iphone automatically plots the coordinates for places you've visited if you don't turn it off.

Google how to check it.

If he's turned that off he's done it for a reason. If he was really worried about being tracked find my iPhone would be off too.

Pennox · 15/05/2022 15:18

Was he in his car? Could he have driven to that town and back? Where was he supposed to be? Can you check if he was there?

I'd be suspicious too OP. Did he live in that town while he was with the ex or was he from there? Could he know of someone else there?

layladomino · 15/05/2022 15:18

I did not check up on where he was during the evening. He wasn't feeling that great and said he would probably be home early. I couldn't get him on text and so checked the app to see if he was travelling home. I have no suspicions and don't usually use the app when he goes anywhere. I'm not into that.

You did an entirely reasonable thing OP. It's not like you've put a tracking device on him - you checked using software you mutually use, for practical reasons.

I think that a) if he's guilty then he could become angry and defensive, and b) if he's not guilty then he could become angry and defensive (if there is any suggestion that you don't believe what he's saying). That said, you know him and how he reacts to things, and will know if he's jumped to angry / defensive as his first reaction, which wouldn't be a good sign.

It does seem to be coincidental that it jumped to a town where he has an ex, but that in itself isn't proof. Responses are on here seem to be saying that it's very unusual for it to give a wrong location, but not impossible, so this will come down to if you trust him (based on previous and also how he responds in this case).

lady725516 · 15/05/2022 15:36

How long does it say he was at the address for?

I'm sorry OP, it's not sounding great 😢

Ariela · 15/05/2022 16:50

Given I just checked my phone and it says I'm in the next county (in mitigation I've been up on a hill earlier so could have connected to something in the other county, battery now flat, it's in the kitchen on charge), I'm inclined to believe your DP.

ExtraOnion · 15/05/2022 16:52

My husband is a birder / walker .. and I sometimes use “find my friends” to see what time to expect him home. The accuracy can be a bit hit & miss, especially is he’s somewhere with a weak signal.

ExtraOnion · 15/05/2022 16:55

.. and he checked once to see if I’d left the supermarket and was on my way home - it showed me in the car park of the local “premier inn” .. I told him I was there meeting my lover (which we both laughed at, because we trust each other).

brandnewdayreset · 15/05/2022 17:18

@whatth I can't offer any technical explanation but I do remember reading something about the system sometimes making a 'guess' at the location based on the nearest tower in the area when the phone is in an area with dodgy signal.

I checked on my ex's location a few times and once it had him in properties about half a mile away from 2am to 6:15am. Yet he was in the house with me at that time. When I checked the next day, the anomalous location had vanished and it was showing a different timeline of locations which tied in to where he actually was.

SoupDragon · 15/05/2022 17:29

CaptSkippy · 15/05/2022 11:11

She didn't accuse him of anything. She simply told him she noticed the phone indicating that location. That he jumped to conclusions and got angry, thinking she was accusing him, says more about him than it does about her.

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And when she "simply told him" he just acted surprised. She then kept checking and going on about it which basically says "I don't trust you".

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whatth · 15/05/2022 17:51

"She" wanted some kind of discussion about it because it made no sense.

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Didimum · 15/05/2022 18:04

@ExtraOnion @SoupDragon Do you want some kind of round of applause because you’ve never been completely blindsided by an affair? Countless women, everyday, are betrayed by their husbands and they never saw it coming - do you think they didn’t trust their husbands implicitly? God forbid it ever happens to you. The ugly truth is that that it happens all the time, and when something suspicious AF happens, then you owe your spouse calm and loving explanation and reassurance - not defensiveness and anger.

Minimalme · 15/05/2022 18:44

Op, you mentioned that your relationship has been difficult recently - just that alone would make me suspicious that he was lying.

I would so what a pp suggested - make out you accept his denial and just watch him a little more closely from now on.

StampOnTheGround · 15/05/2022 18:45

I have never had a problem with the app, few doors down wrong but 100% not 50 miles away, he's lying to you x

Angrymum22 · 15/05/2022 19:27

I have had a few weird locations when looking for DS when he was younger ( he’s 17 but is happy for us to use tracking since it’s easier than trying to find out postcode of where he is when picking him up). One particular time sticks in my mind when iPhone was showing him in Northampton and he was supposed to be in Worcestershire. He, nor his phone have ever been anywhere near Northampton. I have no idea why it happened.
If find my phone was linking to your DH’s old phone it may have been connecting to your home Wi-Fi rather than a mobile phone signal and you were receiving the location of the server it was connecting to.

Wherearemymarbles · 15/05/2022 19:45

Go into location services and that will tell you where the phone has been. If it sayS a town 90 miles away then thats where the phone was

sundayweatherwatch · 15/05/2022 19:54

MrsRobinsonsHandprints · 15/05/2022 08:47

If you need to check up on your husband the relationship is over anyway.

This is ridiculous - I often use the app to check when family/DH will arrive

Wherearemymarbles · 15/05/2022 19:57

I would also think if he was upto something he’d quickly stop sharing his location

rahjama · 15/05/2022 20:02

LadyEloise1 · 15/05/2022 09:51

So the old phone is stating he was in a town 50 miles away where his ex lives.
Hmmmm🧐

This ^^ too suspicious to be a coincidence.

CockSpadget · 15/05/2022 20:13

My OH, my 2 daughters and I use it on a regular basis as we are all motorbikers, and we use it for peace of mind if any of us are out riding alone, and are late home etc. We always find it to be really accurate, if it's a bad signal area it just goes to a big circle saying "x is somewhere within this area" but then quickly goes to exact location as soon as signal is restored.

CornishTiger · 15/05/2022 23:24

Do this.

CornishTiger · 15/05/2022 23:26

Also look at Google maps timeline.

sorry but I’m not believing his version.

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