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Would you forgive her for cheating/one night stand?

105 replies

fantalimon · 08/05/2022 16:39

My girlfriend of two years has admitted to cheating on me. She went on a work night out in another city, that ended up in a nightclub. There she got absolutely wasted, to the point she could barely talk.

I was sent a video by a work colleague, of her dancing with a man in the club. So I confronted her when she came , and she admitted to it. And was very apologetic. She admitted to still being drunk when we had this conversation, as she had just got the train back to see me. She denied having done anything else.

Later that day, when I pushed for more info, she burst into tears and admitted to having had sex with him. She was very very apologetic, and said how scared she was of losing me. I feel like someone has taken a bite out of me. I just randomly want to cry.

I have agreed to try and forgive, but under the express term that if this ever happens again, she is out. We were even talking about moving in together, but now I don't know what to do. I still love her, but not as much as I did.

OP posts:
Palmfrond · 09/05/2022 14:21

@youvegottenminuteslynn @thedancingbear
Ive no idea while I’m responding to this but here goes, read it slowly and out loud if it helps you;
We are talking about the content of the video, about which the only thing the OP says it that it was of her drunkenly dancing with a man.
I’m mystified as to how this is confusing for you.

youvegottenminuteslynn · 09/05/2022 14:23

Palmfrond · 09/05/2022 14:21

@youvegottenminuteslynn @thedancingbear
Ive no idea while I’m responding to this but here goes, read it slowly and out loud if it helps you;
We are talking about the content of the video, about which the only thing the OP says it that it was of her drunkenly dancing with a man.
I’m mystified as to how this is confusing for you.

Why are you talking like a condescending oddball?

You may have been talking only about the video.

Others of us were discussing the wider context of the situation in addition to the video.

You don't get to dictate which bits of an OP's posts they reference in their own responses 😂

thedancingbear · 09/05/2022 14:29

Palmfrond · 09/05/2022 14:21

@youvegottenminuteslynn @thedancingbear
Ive no idea while I’m responding to this but here goes, read it slowly and out loud if it helps you;
We are talking about the content of the video, about which the only thing the OP says it that it was of her drunkenly dancing with a man.
I’m mystified as to how this is confusing for you.

But I'm not talking about the video?

Palmfrond · 09/05/2022 14:51

@youvegottenminuteslynn @thedancingbear
If you reread the posts of mine that you are replying to, you will see the content and context, as it pertains to the video, and only the video. Good lord.

youvegottenminuteslynn · 09/05/2022 14:53

Palmfrond · 09/05/2022 14:51

@youvegottenminuteslynn @thedancingbear
If you reread the posts of mine that you are replying to, you will see the content and context, as it pertains to the video, and only the video. Good lord.

It must be exhausting being you. Maybe stop merailing the thread now with bizarre accusations of posters filling in blanks using their imaginations when they're quoting OP. Have a good day.

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