Asking a guy out for coffee - how does this sound?

[Scampi89]

Hi. I’m currently separated from my husband and we are divorcing.
I really like one of the dads in my DS’s class. I was thinking of asking him for a coffee, very casual, just to see if we’d get on or not, I’m not diving into another relationship. How does this text message sound?
”hi, I wonder if you’d fancy meeting for coffee with a fellow singleton? Very casual, no pressure.”
What do you think? I’m not very good at this sort of thing.
Thanks

So glad he said yes to a coffee @Scampi89 - I always thinks it's better to meet up with people you know IRL and already like something about them than the minefield of the dating apps.

I've got friends who met like via school and it's been good for them.

With half term just around the corner it will be June before you know it!

UPDATE - FURTHER ADVICE REQUIRED

So we had our coffee date, which actually ended up not being a coffee date but he made me lunch at his house. We chatted for about 3 hours and it was really nice.
Anyway he has since asked me out and we are going for dinner next week. I am so nervous. I haven’t been on a first date for about 16 years and am getting myself into a state. I don’t want to be so nervous on the date that I can’t think of anything to say. Do I offer to split the bill? And how? I don’t know what to wear.
I’m just getting myself into a bit of state.

Lovely, well done! He's asked you out for dinner so hopefully he'll be paying, I don't care if it seems old fashioned but I think it's his chance to impress you and he should pay. The times I have offered to pay, the decent ones always insist. Maybe you could buy some extra drinks.

He's seen you natural doing the school run, hopefully. So just keep makeup light and pretty, no strong colours, it's summer so wear a pretty summer dress.

Aah exciting @Scampi89 well played!
you’ll be fine, light makeup, let him pay if he offers..just chat like you did at his house..

Ooh congrats. I would assume I would be splitting the bill, and if he ends up offering to pay for the whole thing then it's a bonus. Yes, something natural and summery. You've already chatted to him for 3 hours and had lunch with him so class this as your second date, and at least you can have a glass of wine to calm your nerves (if that's your thing) on this date :)

Have been reading your thread with interest as I have a thing for a school run dad, we have never spoken properly but have spent over a year giving each other the eye when we walk past... the problem is I don't know if he's single or not.

Do I offer to split the bill?
Yes, at least make the offer, and then let him take care of it,

Well done you !

I remember this post! Lovely!! Yes, offer to split (although I think he should pay, and most likely will). Agree - don’t go OTT but get ready in such a way that he thinks “wow” - nice make up and hair. Do it for yourself also (especially since you haven’t been in one for 16 years) - it’s always fun getting ready for a first date.

Yaay! Well done.

It's been several years decades since I went on a date with somebody new, but what I used to do is have a couple of topics/ things in the news to bring up if there was a lull in the conversation (nothing too heavy or political, preferably lighthearted). Possibly a funny story. It just meant I had something to fall back on and that gave me a bit of confidence.

Also, remember he'll probably be just as nervous as you. You managed to chat for three hours over lunch, so you clearly get on. If in doubt, ask him about himself - most people feel very comfortable talking about themselves, as long as you're not the Spanish Inquisition!

Good luck! 😊

Is a floaty jumpsuit and heels too much? Or maxi dress, or knee length summery wrap dress?
will stick to simple hair and make up. Watch and earrings for jewellery

Good idea about being prepared for conversation topics in case there’s a lull.
I’ve gone from being fairly confident (I suggested coffee in the first place) to being a total melt!! He was just so lovely though and I want to do myself justice

Just wear something appropriate for the place you're going, don't wear heels unless you normally do as they might make you feel uncomfortable. Doesn't sound like there will be lulls in the conversation, you've already chatted a fair bit. I'd be wearing my best lingerie though 😉

This thread is exciting! I also used to do what a PP said - have some random topics ready to crack out if there is a lull in conversation. Wear whatever you feel good in and comfortable in. Good luck!

Ooh - just catching up on this. Well played! How exciting.

I would offer to split - or even pick up - the bill, but I wouldn’t make a big deal of it. Just a “please, let me….”. If he wants to pay, accept graciously and that gives you an excuse to say “ thank you - my turn next time”, which in turn is a good way of saying you’d like to go out again.

Don’t worry about the conversation. This isn’t a random - it’s a) someone you know and b) someone you’ve already had a date with and have just spent three hours chatting to. So you know you get on!

Do come back with an update - I’m sure you’ll have a lovely evening.

Yes, offer to split the bill. If he insists on paying then say you'll pay next time. Shows you have enjoyed it and want another date. Wear whatever you feel makes you look and feel great, not too OTT. Good luck OP, enjoy it x