Winking

[MatchPoint100]

There is a girl at work who really brightens my day. Not Pershing anything one because it's work and 2 because she has a boyfriend.

Anyway. I walk to my desk a different route sometimes to see her, she often looks towards me (she might at all that pass) often waves, acknowledges me most of the time, smiles etc. She is lovely basically, very bubbly.

The other day I walked past and she gave me a wink and as I sat at my desk I was like : 'Did she just wink at me'

Thoughts?

Doesn't matter either way just looking for a women's perspective. Won't act on anything, she just makes me feel good at the moment and it's lovely 😀

Sorry you've had some unhelpful replies on here in the first few posts.

She's just being flirty and nice and there's nothing wrong with that! Flirt back and enjoy it.

I apologise profusely for asking

I hope this is sarcastic because you have absolutely nothing whatsoever to apologise for!

Some people are just downright miserable and as a pp just mentioned which caught my eye, a lot of girls (sorry, yes, women) are man-haters on here so I don’t think it would even matter if the subject of your thread was entitled “should I drive to work today or should I take the train”, you would still be attacked merely for asking. 🙄

I think OP she’s flirting with you but that may just be her nature. Enjoy it but don’t read to much into it, or expect to much from it, or you may be disappointed. I’d take it that she’s getting something from the interaction as well, she enjoys your attention. But that doesn’t mean she’s about to dump her boyfriend.

@runnerblade95

I was being Sarky 😂

I know and it's such a shame they are so miserable and angry inside.

@Lizziekisss

Not expecting that. Suppose it's been a while since I've flirted, so yes. I'm enjoying it. Will flirt a little more but not too much but just enjoy it. Really brightens my day and that's about it really and no harm.

Being naturally flirtatious comes easily to some people and it's part of their charm. Try to see it for what it is, just harmless flirtation. She clearly likes you as a person and feels comfortable with you. That's great but don't read any more into it than that.

When you're ready, get into some groups and start to meet people who are ready to date and not in a relationship.

Don't invest too much thinking time into this woman. And ignore the posters who post just to be unpleasant!

Good luck!

@MatchPoint100 I’m still relatively new to Mumsnet and the amount of negativity I see on here in shocking.

I would carry on if you genuinely feel that you don’t want it to go further. Personally, I can’t understand recreational flirting, but if it makes you happy ok.

Just be watchful of your feelings and keep your guard up- something I’d have no idea how to do.

Well she’s definitely flirting with you and probably fancies you. Take it as a compliment but don’t read too much into it, and don’t be taking a detour to see her TOO often so that it becomes creepy rather than a bit of flirty fun.

🙄

And yes, I have a friend who says she's chatting with a 'boy' online. We also say boyfriend and girlfriend, it's not that deep

The odious people you will get used to. There are a lot of man haters here.

I'm careful not to pass too much. I think she fancies me but it stops there. I am attracted to her nature and how she makes me feel, but she could make a lot of people feel this way, doesn't matter I am not acting on it.

Touching sends out signals to people. I would never touch a woman in a work place but depending on where you touch people sends different signals, whether people realise it or not.

Body language is fascinating to me, hence why I asked the question too.

OP to be fair, I wonder why you'd come to this site of all places, particularly if you feel that MN is full of man haters. Why not a site like Reddit that has a better mix of both sexes?

Urgh, this is the 2nd post in 12 hours I've come across where women are so vile - especially towards men. They clearly need to be flirted with a little too 🙄

If I was to wink at a bloke and be touchy feely then I would fancy them and be flirting - I'm married though so doesn't happen 🤣 she is probably flirting with you and probably likes you but just try to enjoy it from a distance because A. She has a boyfriend and she probably knows you like her and likes it and B. Would you want someone who clearly flirts with other men when in a relationship.

@NippyWoowoo

Never used Reddit.
I'm allowed to be here.
I like the rounded advice.
I dislike the man haters.

At least other women here acknowledge there are some awful people here, that's enough for me.

@MatchPoint100
You just can't win with some women op, some being quite rude for no valid reason really. Your post was fine to ask!

She sounds very flirty, she could be flirting with other people too so just bear that in mind.

Personally if I were to wink at a man in the workplace (or anywhere), then blimey... I'm definitely flirting !

@Olsi109

Thanks for the lovely advice.

@cigarettesNalcohol

😂

Because he wanted to gather a predominantly female POV...

Or did you mean “there’s a woman at work” and you’re referring to a grown adult female? Would you refer to a male colleague as “a boy at work”?

Oh do get over yourself! I frequently refer to adults as girls or boys, and (many years ago) have been called a girl myself. It doesn't require people rushing into print to criticize.

What is she like with other men in the workplace? Does she do the same?

How old is she? Do you know anything about her home situation, like whether she has a partner or children?

@Myotherusernamewastakenagain

She is very friendly and lovely. I couldn't tell you if she winks at other men though 😂

What is the matter with you? Why would you comment something like this?

Just take it at face value as a bit of fun. Which it sounds like you are doing.

Maybe she has a nice friend she could introduce you to.