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Shared a bed with married colleague…

114 replies

Bueno89 · 20/04/2022 08:43

I started a new job a few months ago and found myself to gravitate towards a more senior married male colleague at monthly post-work drinks - we had a lot of banter.

Fast forward to last week where we’re attending an exhibition for the company and I get stuck with a colleague me and the more senior colleague have a mutual dislike for in the evening - the more senior colleague then invites me back to his hotel to have dinner with him to ‘rescue’ me. I get an Uber to the station to get my train home but I missed my train and the hotel my colleague was staying in had no rooms left available. He insisted he would sleep on the floor and I could have the bed so we did that and just spent ages chatting. However, he then got uncomfortable so joined me on the bed.

it got touchy so he brought up that it was crossing a line as both work and the fact he is married with kids and I’m in a long term relationship. We discussed we had both thought about it but he said he didn’t think it would ever happen as I was ‘young and hot’ and because of our relationships. We ended up kissing and a lot of touching but I stopped it going further and explained aside from morally, I also didn’t want to ruin our working relationship. I asked if he would feel guilty after and he didn’t know but said he just knew it would be really good.

I insisted we shouldn’t despite attempts and then in the morning I ended up doing engaging in foreplay. We then didn’t really talk about it until he left and said it wouldn’t be weird at work etc. he then hugged me and said to let him know I had got home.

We’ve messaged back and forth a little in Teams at work but haven’t discussed what happened. It’s still jokey but I feel awkward that things won’t be the same when we’re back in the office. He hasn’t increased how often we chat or changed his demeanour.

The worst part is that I have no regret as to what happened and feel like I wish I had let it go further. I can’t stop thinking about it and don’t know if I should bring it up when I next see him. He hasn’t said anything, but I don’t know if it’s because I insisted on it not happening so he thinks there’s no chance or it might make me uncomfortable, or if he just regrets it? I don’t know if it was an ego boost or if he would ever want more.

OP posts:
oakleaffy · 21/04/2022 20:18

Catlover1970 · 20/04/2022 17:22

I think it must be made up. Nobody is that cheap and ridiculous

It doesn't ''Ring true''.
Who would be that daft.

Hutchy16 · 21/04/2022 20:58

Sounds like a great plan…you get to blow up two lives, sounds exciting

MrsSkylerWhite · 21/04/2022 21:01

You’re both cheating arseholes.

what are you expecting from this thread, congratulations?

There’s no excuse for infidelity. If you don’t love your partner, leave before you start messing around with a married man. Ditto, the married man.

MurmuratingStarling · 21/04/2022 21:10

Bueno89 · 20/04/2022 08:43

I started a new job a few months ago and found myself to gravitate towards a more senior married male colleague at monthly post-work drinks - we had a lot of banter.

Fast forward to last week where we’re attending an exhibition for the company and I get stuck with a colleague me and the more senior colleague have a mutual dislike for in the evening - the more senior colleague then invites me back to his hotel to have dinner with him to ‘rescue’ me. I get an Uber to the station to get my train home but I missed my train and the hotel my colleague was staying in had no rooms left available. He insisted he would sleep on the floor and I could have the bed so we did that and just spent ages chatting. However, he then got uncomfortable so joined me on the bed.

it got touchy so he brought up that it was crossing a line as both work and the fact he is married with kids and I’m in a long term relationship. We discussed we had both thought about it but he said he didn’t think it would ever happen as I was ‘young and hot’ and because of our relationships. We ended up kissing and a lot of touching but I stopped it going further and explained aside from morally, I also didn’t want to ruin our working relationship. I asked if he would feel guilty after and he didn’t know but said he just knew it would be really good.

I insisted we shouldn’t despite attempts and then in the morning I ended up doing engaging in foreplay. We then didn’t really talk about it until he left and said it wouldn’t be weird at work etc. he then hugged me and said to let him know I had got home.

We’ve messaged back and forth a little in Teams at work but haven’t discussed what happened. It’s still jokey but I feel awkward that things won’t be the same when we’re back in the office. He hasn’t increased how often we chat or changed his demeanour.

The worst part is that I have no regret as to what happened and feel like I wish I had let it go further. I can’t stop thinking about it and don’t know if I should bring it up when I next see him. He hasn’t said anything, but I don’t know if it’s because I insisted on it not happening so he thinks there’s no chance or it might make me uncomfortable, or if he just regrets it? I don’t know if it was an ego boost or if he would ever want more.

😂😂😂

PolitePlantPot · 21/04/2022 21:24

TLDR I cheated with a colleague (in a highly cliched way), now I'm going to start an affair with him, he's not going to leave his wife.

WeBurnedSoBrightWeBurnedOut · 21/04/2022 21:43

How romantic. All the best love stories start like this.

ErinAndTonic · 21/04/2022 21:49

Classy.

Dancer47 · 21/04/2022 22:06

You crossed the line so horribly with this man.
You were unfaithful to your long-term partner in the most awful way - going back to the mann's room for dinner (no need) then going back after you missed your train (no need) then letting him in the bed with you (no need) and having sexual relations with him (no need). You wanted all of it to happen, and it did.

Believe me, your partner won't care that you didn't have penetrative sex. Let you partner go. Let him meet someone real and honest. Dont steal any more of his life. As for the married guy, whatever. You are going to do what you want anyway.

NannyOggsWhiskyStash · 21/04/2022 22:59

You are either very young, very naive or very, very selfish, or perhaps all three, you certainly are up your own arse. Your colleague manipulated the situation, quite clearly, and now you want to have an affair with him? Jesus 🙄

Onthedunes · 21/04/2022 23:15

What are you after

A round of applause?

Well go on then and while we're at it the new web site developers of the new MN site can have one aswell.

Both undeserved.

Bazinga007 · 22/04/2022 00:07

You need to tell your boyfriend that you wanked off another man.

grapewines · 22/04/2022 00:15

Bazinga007 · 22/04/2022 00:07

You need to tell your boyfriend that you wanked off another man.

And that you don't feel bad about it at all.

RiverSkater · 22/04/2022 00:46

Shag him and get a promotion? You sound ruthless and heartless enough.

changeyourname11111 · 22/04/2022 20:39

This sounds like a made up not very funny or interesting joke.

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