Please can you all tell me what you do with your evenings being single?

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Also weekends?
I need some inspiration.
My dcs are teens and like to do their own thing most of the time.
I would love to hear what you do that makes you happy to be single.

Whatever I want.

I always struggled with a partner to know what they wanted to do or how they were feeling etc.
It was quite exhausting in a lot of ways to take their feelings etc into account.

I don't do that now. Now the only feelings I consider are mine and my daughter's.

If I want a chippy tea, I do it.
If I want to sit and watch 90s one hit wonders I YouTube, I will.
If I want to go for a walk at 8pm and have a drink in a quiet pub, I will.

There's no bugger watching crap I hate from 9pm till 1am everyday.

I'm staying alone forever.

As for actual ideas etc.

Find yourself something's that interest you.
Have a passing interest in the Tudor era? Read, watch study up and learn.
Always wanted to learn to throw pottery? Do it. Find a night course or a Saturday afternoon course.
Always fancied yourself as a guitar player? What's stopping you?

Start doing things you've an interest in and find activities to indulge them.

I enjoy hiking and outdoorsy things, so I do a lot of that.

Yes, it was really hard work at first. I lost all of my local friends in my divorce (long story) and had to make a totally new life for myself. I remember hoping that it would get easier. Now I'm really reaping the benefits of that hard work and persistence. It was absolutely worth it.

I've had to change username so I don't out myself:

1. I play 4 musical instruments so a lot of time is taken up practising them. Currently I'm not in a group which meets weekly but play in various other groups so that often takes up various evenings - there's a folk music group, orchestras and bands. Some of this is paid work (I have a "patchwork" of self-employment covering a few different things)

2. Go to an art course and therefore spend time painting and drawing

3. Read

4. Film evening once a week with Netflix and popcorn

5. Hike in the mountains in the summer and randomly stay out all night (have the correct equipment for this - don't sleep in a tent though)

6. Jigsaws

7. Spend hours (and this is a bit weird I think) planning fantasy long distance treks in places like Norway and Iceland. Some of which I have actually done in real life and some of which I will do and some of which will never get done because life is too short.

I'm married with teens, but if I were single I'm pretty certain that I'd spend my evenings and weekends doing exactly what I do now! Two evenings a week I do things separately to dh anyway (choir and yoga class). Other evenings dh and I watch a film or a series (sometimes with the dc), which I'd do if I were single. I also do lots of knitting and crochet, am learning a language, and read. Very occasionally we go to a concert. I'd do all of those if I were single.

I'm single with 2 DC. I have no plans to date.

In the evenings I will ;-
Watch a TV show with DD 2.
Watch TV.
Read
Do work for the organisation I volunteer for & we meet most weeks on zoom too.
Do a writing course one night a week.
Housework (not often - I have low expectations).
I sew (I stopped buying clothing apart from jeans, the odd jumper and underware nearly 3 years ago so if I want new clothing I have to make it).
I'd like to do some DIY but I've not much time.
In the summer I will have evening sea swims. In the winter I only swim at night on full moons.
In the summer the DC & I might BBQ or picnic on the beach and hang out down there until its late.
Fold cranes using scrap paper www.thesprucecrafts.com/easy-origami-crane-instructions-4082282
talk to friends on the phone

find what you like to do and do it. If you don't know what you like try stuff out until you figure it out.

I play video games, mostly.
I also draw occasionally, or watch TV, but I usually like to be doing something with my hands so I’ll be on my phone and watching TV or folding laundry.
But mostly video games. An MMO specifically. 🙂

Running Club
Mountain biking
Yoga
Gardening now it's light
Netflix box sets
Occasional evenings out, cinema or food, with friends
I'd like to say read, but in reality it's MN

If you don't know what you like try stuff out until you figure it out

I think this is good advice. You could browse through courses at a local evening class centre and see what takes your fancy.
If you've always fancied doing something arty but don't know what, see what they have on offer and maybe sign up for a beginners' class or taster session.
If you don't really like it you can do something else the next semester and so on until you find something you really like!

Go swinging with people on fabswingers

Yoga.
I'm going to write a book one day, but until then, reading.
I am quite boring actually, I can’t lie.