Sweet or a bit much?

[theickisback]

I've been seeing a man for about 12 weeks. We both live with our parents and we haven't come out as an official couple yet so we don't get much alone time.
He booked us a hotel for the night, and I messaged to say I had period pain, toothache and felt a bit sorry for myself.
When I got to the hotel he'd bought me painkillers, some toothache gel, some dairy milk and a bottle of wine. He said period sex doesn't bother him (it didn't 😂) but no pressure either way.
Is that sweet, or a bit OTT?

Sweet.

Seems nice to me! Do you have reason to think it wasn’t done with nice intentions?

I think it's sweet. My now DH bought me a hairdryer as he hated the way I went out with wet hair sometimes. At the time I thought it was weird but actually I just had low standards before I met him and wasn't used to being treated kindly.

Hmmmmm. I was thinking sweet until I got to the period sex bit.

There was pressure as soon as he mentioned it.

He’s sounds like one of the good guys!

Sweet until he mentioned period sex.

Hmmm could be either. Initially I though sweet but the mention of sex right after does rather imply that was his focus. Make you all better for a shag.

I'd cynically think he was making sure he still got sex

it sounds thoughtful and sweet. A hot water bottle would have been nice as well, though!

Eeeew, period sex is a no go !!!!

Too early to tell. One the one hand, he could have been genuinely trying to support you. On the other hand, having booked a hotel for the purpose of having sex (which might not be refundable), he might have been trying to make sure than nothing was standing in the way of that sex. This means that his actions would have been less about caring about you, and more about making sure he gets what he wants. Only time will tell I suppose!

Sweet! But how old are you both?! Both living with parents and haven’t “come out” as dating yet?

Sounds nice to me.

Period sex? How vile.
Must be a “generational thing” that I feel like that.
Can a woman never have a natural break these days?

There's nothing wrong with period sex. Unless it's someone else's responsibility to deal with the sheets.

Sweet until period sex.

Maybe I'm old fashioned but 🤢🤢🤢

@Giveitall

Period sex? How vile. Must be a “generational thing” that I feel like that. Can a woman never have a natural break these days?

A natural break? Not all of us want a break!

@Hellhath

I'd cynically think he was making sure he still got sex

Yeah this. People can be lovely when they're angling for a shag.

Sweet until the period sex thing. Even saying that applies some pressure.

He was all about having sex and nothing was going to stop him.

@Hellhath

I'd cynically think he was making sure he still got sex

Ya me too.

I think the fact that you are asking means that you probably think it’s a bit much.
It would be sweet if he had done all that and accepted that sex was probably off the cards. But I’m inclined to agree that it seems like he was trying to make sure he got sex at any cost

@Hellhath

I'd cynically think he was making sure he still got sex

And me.

Err, they got a hotel room for the night, I think sex was on the menu.
My male perspective: I’ve always considered men who are fine with period sex to be somehow natural gents.
I’m not fine with it myself, btw, so I’m not congratulating myself here.
Sounds like a nice chap though? Not that any of it means that he’s not angling for sex or at least a blowie but assuming you’re both adults, you pays your money and you takes your chances.

Although tbh I’d have been put off by your minor ailments chat before a special occasion too. Sorry.