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I'm the most boring person ever

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wingingit33 · 05/04/2022 20:38

I literally have no interests. At all. My husband and I have nothing in common I'm amazed we've lasted a decade. But it's not so much the lack of anything in common, I lack interest in everything. No - I'm not depressed!! I hate sport, nights out, I don't drink, hate cooking, not into music, rarely travel, no desire to learn a new language, instrument etc. My life is very dull - but I'm ok with that. Fine in fact. Is anyone else boring too? Dh and I don't do anything together but it's always been this way. In fact, he likes all the above which I dont. What am I missing?

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parkrunsandpinot · 05/04/2022 20:49

There must be something you like @wingingit33 ?

Sidge · 05/04/2022 20:52

What do you DO? Read? Watch TV?

You must have some interests surely?

GreyCarpet · 05/04/2022 20:57

You must do something?

MarianosOnHisWay · 05/04/2022 20:58

Do you have kids?

Itstheweekendyasssss · 05/04/2022 20:59

You do sound a little depressed tbh

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wingingit33 · 05/04/2022 21:00

@Itstheweekendyasssss genuinely not! Been like this for 20 + years and very happy with life!

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wingingit33 · 05/04/2022 21:01

@MarianosOnHisWay yea three kids and a dog

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Boating123 · 05/04/2022 21:02

[quote wingingit33]@Itstheweekendyasssss genuinely not! Been like this for 20 + years and very happy with life! [/quote]
That's all that matters Smile

Giveitall · 05/04/2022 21:16

I’m not dissimilar!
I’m happy in my own skin. I like being outdoors, doing a bit of weeding maybe but not gardening too much.
I think there’s too much pressure on everyone these days to perform, keep up, have this,that, and the other. Me? I’m just happy bobbing along without too many external influences. I’m with OP.
Plodders rule the world!

Monty27 · 05/04/2022 21:19

OP what makes you happy\tick?
Are you lazy would you say?

Sunnytwobridges · 05/04/2022 21:28

OP I'm very much the same. Actually it's why an old BF broke up with me lol I don't have many interests these days except watching TV. I used to run around and do lots cause i wanted to seem interesting and I was afraid I would die and wish I'd done more (I prob will still feel that way lol)

BUt now at 50 I don't care too much anymore. I do wish I had a partner but I"ve given up on that and just try to be happy with my own company these days. I think as long as you're happy it doesnt matter - and you're not boring at all. Some of those people that do a million different things, like my ex BF did, actually bore me. Grin

phizog · 05/04/2022 21:31

What do you do with your free time? Do you focus it all on the children? That's not healthy as it can be helluva burden for children to carry to be your 'everything'. Or do you just like watching TV - which is absolutely fine too. If DH were to leave you, kids grow up and move out - what would you do when not working, and would that make you happy?

liveforsummer · 05/04/2022 21:39

I don't think this is a problem. It is the opposite of how I was but lockdowns made me realise that I actually don't love being busy I just didn't know any different.

Someonemustknowtheanswer · 05/04/2022 21:40

I think some people are content with the simple things in life. If you're happy then crack on.

Escarpahell · 05/04/2022 21:43

Before social media informed us that we should be cooking a cordon bleu meal while roller skating and learning the piano in Italian, all at the same time we did OK. You're doing OK.

Mossstitch · 05/04/2022 22:01

Pottering rules 👍 I don't have any motivation to do anything special. Not bothered about holidays, going to the cinema, theatre, restaurants, pubs. I like being at home, enjoy a bit of cooking, baking if I'm in the mood, food shopping, gardening..... But only in 10 minute sessions, staring out the window at the little birds playing in my garden and the blossom flowers springing into life, knitting for everybodies babies/toddlers and far too much time on mumsnet. But I'm quite content, no burning ambitions unfulfilled🤷 I accept I'm boring......... But that's alright😄

DreamTheMoors · 05/04/2022 22:04

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Someonemustknowtheanswer · 05/04/2022 22:06

@DreamTheMoors

Well this thread went downhill quite rapidly....

FlissyPaps · 05/04/2022 22:11

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Itstheweekendyasssss · 05/04/2022 22:42

As long as you are happy, I got the vibe you were questioning it a little. Three kids and a dog is plenty to bring you joy though, you are probably too busy for much else!

alwaysmovingforwards · 05/04/2022 22:47

If you’re happy, then you’re happy.
Nothing more to it than that.

Shabtipup · 05/04/2022 22:50

What did you enjoy doing as a child? Remember that feeling of pure happiness being out in the sun, playing on the field, drawing? Swimming? So many of us grow up and fit ourselves into a boring mould of what an adult is supposed to be. Maybe try and reclaim some "childishness" Flowers

FrecklesMalone · 05/04/2022 22:52

Maybe you are just content with your life and live in the moment. This is hard to achieve for many but an amazing achievement.

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MardyOldGoth · 05/04/2022 23:16

I'm really boring. I just watch TV, listen to audiobooks and faff around on the Internet.