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Original poster

Bumble - come back!

36 replies

ivebeenbumbled · 04/04/2022 14:04

Don't ask me how I did it, but I've managed to swipe left and lose the only guy who had caught my eye. I've got Premium set up, but it seems I've gone too far and can't 'backtrack'.

Is that him gone for good?

I'm on incognito mode while I get used to the whole idea, so not even the slight chance of him swiping me until I remove that.

Swiping the wrong ones all over the place here Confused

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Original poster
ivebeenbumbled · 04/04/2022 16:58

Nobody want to be the one to break it to me? Grin

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BubblesBlue1992 · 04/04/2022 17:02

Sorry, I think you've lost him.... 😬
Although, if you do take it off of incognito then there might be a chance he could reappear if he says yes to you. 🤞

AHungryCaterpillar · 04/04/2022 17:19

Make a new profile ? 😂

Nanny67 · 04/04/2022 17:21

I've swiped no instead of yes before and a couple of days later they turn up again 🤪

hightimer · 04/04/2022 17:22

I believe with Bumble that you are only shown profiles in the 'stack' once; if you swipe left, you won't be shown that profile again.

If you can create a new profile and come off incognito mode then do that and he may crop up again, especially if you refine search criteria accordingly.

Original poster
ivebeenbumbled · 04/04/2022 17:24

He was bloody handsome and his job/hobby was fascinating!

I've taken myself off incognito mode 🙈

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Lostoldusername · 04/04/2022 17:36

I swiped no on someone about 3 times as i was unsure, then I swiped yes on the 4th time so it's likely he may come round again.

theschitt · 04/04/2022 22:41

They often do come back.
Many guys seem to delete their profiles then create a new one - they then get to try again with all the ladies who rejected them before.
But hot guys don't have to do this obviously

KimCheese · 04/04/2022 22:50

Hes probably also on Tinder..

stillvicarinatutu · 05/04/2022 00:12

Try the free apps like tinder and plenty of fish he's likely on more than one .
I Learnt quickly that everyone on the paid sites is also on the freebies

Original poster
ivebeenbumbled · 05/04/2022 11:20

God, I can't face signing up to another.

I'll just watch him from afar on his Instagram Grin

Had no likes on mine of anyone less than 35 miles away. Not up for that.

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BowerOfBramble · 05/04/2022 12:54

If you've got his instagram just message him on there you big dafty!

Original poster
ivebeenbumbled · 05/04/2022 13:16

Noooo, I can't do that!

If he liked the look of me, he'd have swiped me.

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AHungryCaterpillar · 05/04/2022 13:36

Yeah don’t message him on insta 😬🤦🏻

Fabpinky · 05/04/2022 13:37

But you swiped left on him so even if he swiped right on you you’d never know.

Just request him on Instagram! If he’s put his @ in his profile it’s ok to!

Original poster
ivebeenbumbled · 05/04/2022 13:38

@Fabpinky

But you swiped left on him so even if he swiped right on you you’d never know.

Just request him on Instagram! If he’s put his @ in his profile it’s ok to!

It's his hobby/business Instagram.
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MissMaple82 · 05/04/2022 13:39

Chances are OP he wasn't the one!!

1MillionSelfiesTakenByMyKids · 05/04/2022 13:41

Definitely look on tinder, too. They're fairly duplicated

MrsWooster · 05/04/2022 13:42

@ivebeenbumbled

Noooo, I can't do that!

If he liked the look of me, he'd have swiped me.

Are you prepared to lose him for pride..?! I think I’d send him a message saying “I saw your profile on Bumble, and thought your hobby /interests etc sounded great but I accidentally managed to swipe the wrong way! Here is a link to my profile and it would be great to hear from you.” Nothing ventured, nothing gained-and nothing lost since you’ll never meet him in real life if he thinks you’re a loon!

in fairness I am old now and past playing games. Whether I’d have had the ovaries to do this back in the day, OTOH!!

Ohquietone · 05/04/2022 13:48

Message him on “the gram”. If it doesn’t work out you’ve lost nothing.

BowerOfBramble · 05/04/2022 15:42

I agree, I'd rather swallow my pride and message on Insta than never see him again - it's quite funny that you swiped the wrong way.

Peachtoiletpaper · 05/04/2022 22:36

Message him on insta and say you thought he sounded really interesting hence having a nosy, but swiped left by mistake! He put his details on his profile so will hardly object. Honestly, it's fine! If he's not keen he can say 'no thanks' or not reply, you're not crossing any lines here.

TibetanTerrah · 05/04/2022 22:38

If he liked the look of me, he'd have swiped me

How do you know he didn't? I dip into bumble now and then. Often the ones I swipe have already swiped me.

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ivebeenbumbled · 06/04/2022 08:58

I have premium set up. I can see who has swiped me.

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TibetanTerrah · 06/04/2022 09:07

@ivebeenbumbled

I have premium set up. I can see who has swiped me.
Wow, maybe I need to get premium! I didn't know you could do that Grin I can see then why you'd be hesitant to message him on Instagram but being ballsy and "21st century" Hmm making the first move can be an attractive trait too, thats what bumble is all about anyway Wink