I’m 25 and he is 10 years older than me, we have a son each from previous relationships and our family blends well. His son only stays for the summer and my son is away at weekends with his Dad. We wanted kids together but this baby wasn’t planned (contraceptive failure) and we were in shock. He didn’t react well at first but over the next week he came round and said we’d manage it. I understand he may not be thrilled as he is currently unemployed (job lost due to covid) and looking for work so is worried about money but it’s really frustrating me how he won’t help around the house. I do all the cleaning and cooking, he expects me to make him coffee all day, do the shopping alone, do the school run. I’m 10 weeks but I’m absolutely shattered this time round. If I say i’m feeling tired or sore he ignores me. He hasn’t mentioned the pregnancy since we had a chat like 2 weeks ago and agreed to support each other. I rang my gp to get my booking appointment sorted and didn’t mention anything because it feels so awkward talking about the pregnancy when he’s acting like it’s not happening. He’s even been asking me to rub HIS back in bed a lot which I found odd.
I’m starting to feel like he dislikes the fact he should really be looking out for me a bit more and is trying to turn the attention onto himself. We’re very close with his family and he hasn’t even asked me about sharing the news. Again he acts like it’s not even happening. I feel overwhelmed, alone and upset.
Has anyone else had to deal with this strange behaviour? Should I just push past the awkwardness and talk to him about the pregnancy anyway? And am I reasonable for wanting maybe a little bit more help at the moment..