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Ever thrown something?

94 replies

Ukerlaylee · 27/03/2022 21:57

I threw a toilet roll down the stairs, wasn't as satisfying as I expected in my rage, so I picked up a small folding pocket brush with a mirror and threw it against the wall upstairs. It smashed, it was closed at the time and didn't check until I returned from work that day.

Am I violent?! Do I need anger management. As far as I'm concerned it was a one off sort of action. The only other thing I've done in anger is smash a glass in the sink last year. I'm mid 30s.

Have you ever thrown something in anger?

OP posts:
NotaCoolMum · 27/03/2022 22:00

Yep. I once threw a phone against a wall and it left a perfect phone shaped imprint on the wall. 🤣 it was a one off 15 years ago. Hasn’t happened before or since.

excelledyourself · 27/03/2022 22:04

A bag of bananas off the floor, I'm sure it was. Can't remember what the bananas did to deserve it though.

cleanbreak2022 · 27/03/2022 22:06

When I was pregnant I launched a tub of butter. It hit the kitchen door and slid down it. The door hadn't been painted/treated and was bore wood. The butter stain lasted years

Original poster
Ukerlaylee · 27/03/2022 22:14

Thanks everyone, feeling a lot less bad about what I did now. It wasn't at someone just pretended it was? Is this ever OK?!

OP posts:
Fourfloor · 27/03/2022 22:21

Better to throw something and pretend than actually injure someone, I'd say. What caused the anger, OP?

Fuzzyhippo · 27/03/2022 22:59

Yep I suffer from anger management though and went through a nasty breakdown which caused me to smash up a whole house when I was younger. Now days I prefer to take it out on myself

Siameasy · 27/03/2022 22:59

Quite a few times yes!🙈

crackofdoom · 27/03/2022 23:01

I threw a shoe at an ex years ago. He took it really badly and we broke up temporarily. I couldn't even see his point of view at the time, which-looking back- just illustrates how fucked up and emotionally immature I was at the time.

stimpyyouidiot · 27/03/2022 23:15

I once threw an empty baby bottle across the room because dd had reflux, waking up every 45 mins, tiny feed, sick, tiny feed, sick, h asleep and I was broken from PND and so furious at that moment.

Much better now 😁

stimpyyouidiot · 27/03/2022 23:16

Not because of the throwing I might add, time and counselling helped.

RollofDice · 27/03/2022 23:25

I quite easily get angry, it's usually when I'm tidying the house and everyone else is just sat around not helping....I've thrown thrown poor Henry the hoover, plates and cups into the sink which have then broken, game controllers, toys, a toddler step stool at the bathroom wall and broke the tiles. I've never ever and never would throw anything at anyone but I do throw things quite often and I bet it use to scare my kids but I also bet they're use to it now. I also scream. I scream at everyone who just sit there watching me pick up their shit off the floor.
My phone's also got cracks from when I've throw it too Blush

theschitt · 28/03/2022 00:10

I don't throw things because it's me that had to clear it up!
It helps I live alone, much harder to get angry in an empty room....

Chonfox · 28/03/2022 00:32

Did it often as a child - would fuck all sorts against the wall/pulled a wardrobe down once but thankfully have slightly better emotional regulation now!

Have thrown a couple of things when my DCs were babies/toddlers (they obviously weren't witnesses to this though!) and I was on my knees with sleep deprivation and stress to vent my anger (as the alternative would have been throwing them out the window!!)

Rowan10 · 28/03/2022 02:09

Just the once but with about 50 items !!
Two weeks after my exh left to live with the OW, he came back to collect some belongings from the house. I went out to Costa and I said spend some time with the kids and text me when you’re leaving. I was heartbroken but thought I was being really grown up about everything.
I walked into Costa and there was the OW (despite him promising me he wouldn’t bring her). So I walked straight back out the door and drove home. But I couldn’t park on my drive as her car was on it. So I lost it and threw every single shoe of the shoe rack at her car. Not my finest moment but god it was satisfying - it was the total lack of respect that made me lose it. And as the kids said, at least I wouldn’t have to tell the neighbours now as they all got a good view !!
We now call it shoe gate….

VeryEventual · 28/03/2022 04:06

Have you ever thrown something in anger?
Yes. Many, many times. Don't see it as an issue worth posting about though...

Wallywobbles · 28/03/2022 04:13

Once threw a glass at the wall above my bf when he was in bed. It was designed to scare him and not hurt him. Looking back it was clearly abusive of me.

He was a lovely chap but at 24 I had been his career for 2 years. Not a good place to be.

Notagoodnight · 28/03/2022 04:24

It's never ok to throw things. If you do regularly you need to find healthier coping strategies.

No your children never get used to it and it can harm them in ways you cant even Imagine

Jobsharenightmare · 28/03/2022 04:38

Rowan10 did you post about the discovery etc at the time? This seems really familiar. I remember a thread just like it and thought what a horrible pair they were.

I left a perfect hair brush shaped dent in a wall in my early 20s. I think that's the only time...a long time ago that was.

catscatscurrantscurrants · 28/03/2022 05:15

I once threw a potato at a dog that was chasing my cat. Not what you were looking for, OP, but there it is.

FairyLightPups · 28/03/2022 05:22

No because my mum used to throw things and scream regularly and it completely fucked up my childhood.

I cry instead Grin

sammylady37 · 28/03/2022 06:37

@RollofDice

I quite easily get angry, it's usually when I'm tidying the house and everyone else is just sat around not helping....I've thrown thrown poor Henry the hoover, plates and cups into the sink which have then broken, game controllers, toys, a toddler step stool at the bathroom wall and broke the tiles. I've never ever and never would throw anything at anyone but I do throw things quite often and I bet it use to scare my kids but I also bet they're use to it now. I also scream. I scream at everyone who just sit there watching me pick up their shit off the floor. My phone's also got cracks from when I've throw it too Blush
Jesus. Those poor kids.
pinkpixie83 · 28/03/2022 06:49

Last week... threw a box of books at a wall, made my life harder as I now have a hole I need to deal with 🤣

Second time in my life, but the other option was to hit my teen in a way a parent shouldn't hit a child. Their behaviour sent me back to an abusive past situation. Not proud of myself but the lesser of two evils.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 28/03/2022 06:49

I’m afraid I do and have

Shoxfordian · 28/03/2022 06:57

No I don’t ever throw stuff
It sounds like you should have some counselling if you’re regularly getting this angry
I also feel sorry for any kids having to see this behaviour from their parents; social services should be involved

Rowan10 · 28/03/2022 06:58

Jobsharenightmare - yes I think I’ve mentioned it on here before ! It was about 5 years ago now…

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