Ever thrown something?

[Ukerlaylee]

I threw a toilet roll down the stairs, wasn't as satisfying as I expected in my rage, so I picked up a small folding pocket brush with a mirror and threw it against the wall upstairs. It smashed, it was closed at the time and didn't check until I returned from work that day.

Am I violent?! Do I need anger management. As far as I'm concerned it was a one off sort of action. The only other thing I've done in anger is smash a glass in the sink last year. I'm mid 30s.

Have you ever thrown something in anger?

@RollofDice

I quite easily get angry, it's usually when I'm tidying the house and everyone else is just sat around not helping....I've thrown thrown poor Henry the hoover, plates and cups into the sink which have then broken, game controllers, toys, a toddler step stool at the bathroom wall and broke the tiles. I've never ever and never would throw anything at anyone but I do throw things quite often and I bet it use to scare my kids but I also bet they're use to it now. I also scream. I scream at everyone who just sit there watching me pick up their shit off the floor. My phone's also got cracks from when I've throw it too

You do realise how absolutely terrifying this must be for your children, yes? Please get help. This isn't a normal way to treat your children and if they're 'used to it', it means they're used to a highly dangerous situation, which no child should be.

Threw a kebab. I was heavily pregnant, hungry and had wanted it all day and they brought it with no salad or mayo, just dry meat.

I threw my mobile phone at the wall once. It broke and I was even more pissed off.

No, I'm an adult and can regulate my emotions

Never. And I'm frankly surprised that so many not only have, but seem to think it's normal, or even amusing .

Once upon a time when I was with my exh I was known to throw things... I was 19/20/21 at the time, never aimed at anyone but always in an argument, I can remember 2 occasions where I threw my phone down and broke it and threw a controller down and it bounced off the floor and hit the tv and broke the screen.

Ex and I always had such horrible explosive arguments and I always thought I had awful anger issues but weirdly they have all disappeared since we split 4 years ago! I'm in my 30s now and don't have anger issues at all like that, it feels like a different person!

Anger is a normal human emotion and shouldn't be considered a negative emotion imo. It's there for a reason

Most people who throw things and worse don't have an anger issue, they are displaying violence

My ex used to throw things or kick things in anger. It was terrifying. Even when it was only something small (eg he threw a scrunched up receipt in my face while arguing) it was a total lack of respect for me, as it was clearly just whatever was in his hand. Had it been his phone or a set of keys would he have thrown that? The final straw was him kicking over a little coffee table and when I didn’t notice he then kicked over a tower fan about 20 mins later. It made me realise that it wasn’t just a ‘heat of the moment’ thing, it was a power play. Shitty and abusive way to behave, especially with children in the house. Those of you who do this crap, please stop.

No because my dad used to do that and I was terrified by it as it was usually a precursor to physical violence.

I haven’t and if DH did I wouldn’t be married to him.

How could anyone think it’s a positive that a child has ‘got used to’ their parent showing aggression in the home?

The only times I've done shit like this was in one of my drunken rages. (I'm now in recovery.)

It's frightening and upsetting for an adult to witness, let alone a child.

yes, and cleaning up the aftermath made the experience entirely unsatisfying. It was a lamb bhuna. Next time (if there is a next time) I shall throw a solid rather than liquid, colloid or emulsion, and I will throw it somewhere other than in my kitchen.

One Monday after a long weekend without sleep as a junior doctor I was off my face with exhaustion and threw my bleep out of a fifth floor window then had to go outside and round the back of the hospital looking for it. I got no sympathy, just ward staff angry that they were briefly unable to contact me and a bawling out later from one of the consultants. Fortunately, the bleep was fine or I'd have had my wages docked to replace it.

Moving on around 15 years, my XH used to yammer on and on at me, accusing me of increasingly bizarre acts of Being A Bad Wife, until I snapped back at him. It was really, really tiresome behaviour and it took me a long time to realise that getting me to snap back so that he could present himself as the victim was his objective. One time I threw a small comb at him in frustration. I missed by a mile. Told him it would have served him right if it HAD "taken his eye out", but I was quietly horrified with myself.

@RollofDice you're an abusive parent. I hope your kids can get the support they need. You're also putting them at risk of abusive relationships when they grow up as they think someone being violent is normal and its acceptable to treat others this way.

Yes, I threw a pot of hummus once. Pre kids.

Yup. Plates, cups etc are now plastic as they are harder to break. Smashed a crappy Windows laptop years ago, it was the 4th one that wouldn't work. Ornaments are doomed same with plants. Battered pillows until they have burst, a d so much more.

I've had anger management, lots of input from mh services as I do have personality disorder and often hear voices that amongst other things encourage harmful behaviour.

@RollofDice

I quite easily get angry, it's usually when I'm tidying the house and everyone else is just sat around not helping....I've thrown thrown poor Henry the hoover, plates and cups into the sink which have then broken, game controllers, toys, a toddler step stool at the bathroom wall and broke the tiles. I've never ever and never would throw anything at anyone but I do throw things quite often and I bet it use to scare my kids but I also bet they're use to it now. I also scream. I scream at everyone who just sit there watching me pick up their shit off the floor. My phone's also got cracks from when I've throw it too

You sound deranged

A tin of beans, (designed to miss) a bathroom weighing scales(ditto deisgned to miss)

I got his attention, we moved house and he stopped acting like a dick, we are still together thirty two calm years together.

He dragged me from one end of the country to the other for a large singular move, I was a willing traveller, but then totally not in the plan he promptly disappeared for work every Monday and reappeared every Thursday or Friday, like Lord of the fucking manor to his country pile, I was heartbreakingly lonely and he didn't care his career was on a fabulous trajectory, mine however had tanked due to move.

He got the message, we moved, we have both been very happy ever since.

During peak toddler fussy eating days I took a plate of lovingly prepared, totally rejected food and lobbed it down the garden (plastic plate) then carried on as normal. It was satisfying. Child didn't notice!

No. I thought it was something that only happened in tv/films.

Oh Kohla, I sympathise. I was a junior doctor 40 years ago, when we worked 100 hour weeks. I had gone several nights without sleep on a continuous 72 hour shift, it was 3am and a particularly useless surgeon was taking forever over a simple appendix in theatre.
I was the anaesthetist, and eventually I couldn’t stand any more, so popped out to the changing room, took off my wooden theatre clogs and threw them repeatedly at the walls to vent my rage and exhaustion.
When I walked back into theatre, the terrified looking junior surgeon was suturing the wound at (I was going to say a rate of knots!) great speed. He must have heard the crashes and bangs through the walls…

Yes, I've done it since being small when my father would shout at me for hours on end. To ease my frustration, and so as not to be violent towards him (because I was afraid to) I would throw something hard of my own against the wall repeatedly. This was preferable to hitting myself in the head which I also did.

As an adult, until recently when I have worked extremely hard to control my rage and frustration, I do the same thing. I have something which is pretty unbreakable and I would throw it at the floor. Or outside, although I try to avoid this as bits can get flung into the neighbour's garden.

I do not hit people. I would never hit my husband (mind you it's because he would not stand for one second for that) I would never hit my child because that is wrong. I would never hit an animal..... I will throw the shit out of an inanimate object I own in an enclosed space.

In the midst of an absolutely toxic relationship with a complete waster of a Man I once walked into the kitchen mid-screaming row with a pile of plates and bits from dinner and just hurled them into the sink from the doorway. (There was nobody in the kitchen so no risk of harming anyone).

I promised myself afterwards that if I ever found myself with that level of rage again I'd leave the situation immediately. I've never thrown anything again and rarely raise my voice in a disagreement.