Can you feel differently after the first date?

[Redberries85]

Hi all,

I went on a date with a lovely guy we’d been phone calling and texting for a few weeks and very familiar wave length , really got on.

Went in the date today, and again we got on well and I really liked his energy and felt very comfortable around him. Both at same stage of life, mid- teen only child and similar work and outlook on life. Just wasn’t sure if I fancied him. On his Facebook pics which he doesn’t know I’ve seen, he looks lovely and I can see that he could be really attractive but I just didn’t feel it when I was in the date. His beard was overgrown and think he looked quite casual for a date. I know that sounds shallow but it’s just how I felt.

Has anyone had experience of this developing once you spend more time with them or do you think you always need the initial spark?

Thanks, am just curious if other peoples experiences

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I also don't understand the point of the seemingly high quality man with underlying 'selfish and psycho' issues.

Jesus! Every woman who has ended a long term relationship knows that the man you marry is not the same you are divorcing.

If we all knew how the future was going to turn we all would have fantastic lives, sadly we don’t. My psycho didn’t turn into a psycho until he met his current partner, would I have chosen him if I knew that was going to be the result after years happy together? No.

It is interesting how important money is for some people here, they have totally ignored the part where I said we had a good life and was an equal until he had to put his child first (said child didn’t come to be until many many years of happy marriage) that they are totally ignoring the part we’re I said he treated me well. Yes, he had money but we built most of it TOGETHER.

Sadly years of putting the career in the back burner to focus on child rearing can really put a spanner on the works of any woman’s career but that’s a topic for another thread.