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gfwantsmoney · 2022-03-16T21:23:24+00:00

That is really. I have been seeing this woman for a couple of months. We have seen each other every couple of weeks since January and everything is fantastic. We talk almost every day. She is beautiful, interesting and I really like her. I could see a future for us after being single for a long time. The only problem is that she just told me she needs 500 pounds a month to pay her rent each month. She is not from the UK so she said in her country it is normal for a boyfriend to pay for things for his girlfriend. Is she taking me for a ride? I can afford the 500 pounds.

Lurking9to5 · 16/03/2022 22:54

Yeh, pay my rent is the original tinder swindle I believe.

Psuedoshoes · 16/03/2022 22:54

OP for a mere £600 a month to cover only my basic costs, I will guide you through this and explain the scams to you

Squeezita · 16/03/2022 22:55

She can't be a girlfriend after 6 dates!

Glad you told her no.

thisplaceisweird · 16/03/2022 22:58

Let me guess, you met her and she instantly liked you, told you a the right things, told you that she was bored of other men/boys and you are so much better than them. Showered you with attention, but never intimacy. Told you that she had certain boundaries and expectations because of her culture. I've read it a million times, congrats for spotting the red flag!

Hashbr0wn · 16/03/2022 22:58

Did she say how was she paying/affording her rent before?

Sorry OP and I'm sure you're disappointed but agree with majority to just get out now. It'll save you much more heartache (literal and financial) further down the line.

TopCatsTopHat · 16/03/2022 23:01

Glad you wriggled off the hook op.
Decent ladies are out there I promise.
I'm glad the hurt wasn't worse, it easily could have been. People like that have no conscience.

Lurking9to5 · 16/03/2022 23:03

@Oppy

If you like her and enjoy having sex with her just pay her per meet, DO NOT agree to a monthly fee. At the end of the day she is a human being making her way through a complex life. She probably hasn’t hurt anyone. You can practice technique and gain sexual confidence that will help draw genuine emotionally based relationships. If you pay per meet she’ll treat you very well I’m sure. I’d probably insist on a sexual health check though x

Eugh. That's gross.

I was going to suggest the OP be a little bit realistic when he approaches women. Like, asking himself ''would I date a woman 20 years older than I am''. if the answer to that is no, then unless there is the SPARK OF A LIFETIME be aware that most women (most) aren't racing to date a much older person either. If men understood this they wouldn't be scammed as much.

youvegottenminuteslynn · 16/03/2022 23:04

I thought with the rents so high in the UK, it could be sociably acceptable these days.

What, for someone to ask someone else to subsidise their rent just because they have a vagina?!

Or would you think it anywhere remotely appropriate for a man to ask a woman to pay £500 a month towards his rent?

She's probably saying 5-10 guys, asking them all and hoping that if a few say yes she gets her rent covered for a few months. Then replaces blokes with new ones when they realise it's not right.

Was she lots younger than you?

Please don't be taken advantage of - you sound very naive to be dating in the current landscape. It's brutal out there and you need to have your wits about you!

youvegottenminuteslynn · 16/03/2022 23:05

@Oppy

If you like her and enjoy having sex with her just pay her per meet, DO NOT agree to a monthly fee. At the end of the day she is a human being making her way through a complex life. She probably hasn’t hurt anyone. You can practice technique and gain sexual confidence that will help draw genuine emotionally based relationships. If you pay per meet she’ll treat you very well I’m sure. I’d probably insist on a sexual health check though x

You've just told a bloke looking for a relationship to essentially pay for a prostitute / escort.

Hopefully his bar is a little higher than doing that if he's looking for a lasting and meaningful connection.

Calphurnia88 · 16/03/2022 23:06

@Oppy

If you like her and enjoy having sex with her just pay her per meet, DO NOT agree to a monthly fee. At the end of the day she is a human being making her way through a complex life. She probably hasn’t hurt anyone. You can practice technique and gain sexual confidence that will help draw genuine emotionally based relationships. If you pay per meet she’ll treat you very well I’m sure. I’d probably insist on a sexual health check though x

What...?

Are you seriously suggesting that instead of simply saying no to this women's request to pay her rent, OP should instead pay her for sex?

Sswhinesthebest · 16/03/2022 23:13

How did you meet her?

Annette32123 · 16/03/2022 23:14

@Oppy

If you like her and enjoy having sex with her just pay her per meet, DO NOT agree to a monthly fee. At the end of the day she is a human being making her way through a complex life. She probably hasn’t hurt anyone. You can practice technique and gain sexual confidence that will help draw genuine emotionally based relationships. If you pay per meet she’ll treat you very well I’m sure. I’d probably insist on a sexual health check though x

Or, don’t do this.

What with using prostitutes for sex being illegal and immoral.

Op, you sound kind. There are nice women out there. Avoid a big age gap, find someone who is also kind, and keep being wary of things that don’t sound right to you. Best of luck in your quest to find love!

BluebellsGreenbells · 16/03/2022 23:18

Why not send another text saying you’ve changed your mind and offer her half the money and see how quickly she comes back then? Then you know for sure she’s scamming you!

Oppy · 16/03/2022 23:19

I don't like to label people as prostitutes or whatever because terms like that are loaded and prejudiced. People do what they can to get by, this woman is a human being trying to get by. The OP clearly enjoys her company, he seems like a thoughtful individual who's alarm bells are going off and so probably not a fool.. he has said he can afford it. He knows now she she is motivated by money, but that doesn't mean she dislikes him. Life isn't binary, and not are people, life is short though and fun is on short supply so maybe it's a great way for him to spend his money. Maybe it wouldn't suit him, maybe he needs emotional connection, makes sense to me though 🤷‍♀️

YouWereGr8InLittleMenstruators · 16/03/2022 23:23

I'm sorry you've experienced this. Something very similar happened to a friend a couple of years ago. It started with subsidising rent in a different city, then part funding a masters degree and being asked to contribute to medical treatment for relatives abroad. Again big age gap, very beautiful and totes enchanted with my friend. My colleague had similar with her dad soon after he was widowed when her mum died. His new friend also needed help with UK rent, and she quickly moved on to request that colleague's dad helped her family pay their way through red tape and legal fees abroad, related to property rights.

betwixtlives · 16/03/2022 23:24

🙄

LightSpeeds · 16/03/2022 23:29

It's a scam. I'm surprised you've actually seen her.

PinkSyCo · 16/03/2022 23:30

Oppy I know you’re trying to be cool but you are actually doing prostitutes (nothing wrong with calling a spade a spade) a disservice by comparing them to this woman because they are honest, men know what they are getting with a prostitute, whereas OP’s girlfriend is a conwoman pure and simple. Do not defend her, she doesn’t deserve it and it’s not fair on OP.

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Masdintle · 16/03/2022 23:32

Just before you bin her off for being a cheeky fucker, could you find out where one can rent a place for £500 per month? (asking for a friend)

Oppy · 16/03/2022 23:39

I’m not trying to be cool thank you, it’s my opinion. Don’t see how I was defending her particularly either. What makes you think “prostitutes” are any more honest than this woman, everyone is different. Calling a spade a spade doesn’t work because what a spade is is a subjective matter of opinion. I do know she is a human being. And anyway as far as I know women who are paid for sex prefer to be referred to as sex workers, isn’t their an alliance called something like that.. I will admit I don’t know for sure and maybe some women who are paid for sex prefer to be called prostitutes, but you don’t know they want to be names prostitutes either. And to use your logic, if he offers to pay her per meet then he is taking control and making it an more honest transaction

PyongyangKipperbang · 16/03/2022 23:40

@Sux2buthen

I am not denying that she is a scammer but what you dont seem to realise is that these scams are highly organised and big business. A lot of former pimps have realised that they can get a lot more money for a hell of a lot less risk by using women to run these scams than putting them on the streets.

I read an article that suggested that trafficked women who would otherwise have been forced into physical prositution are being forced to work in the "girlfriend" scam industry instead. I cant remember the numbers but they were shockingly high.

Oppy · 16/03/2022 23:40

*there

PyongyangKipperbang · 16/03/2022 23:44

I seem to recall that a big risk for women from N Korea who make it to the south is internet sex work (cams etc) and scamming. I wish I could remember where I read the article now, may have been the I newspaper.

GruffaIo · 16/03/2022 23:45

So sorry, OP, that it's not the relationship you thought it was.

To protect yourself, as it sounds like you haven't dated much for a while, you might want to read up on "romance fraud": www.actionfraud.police.uk/a-z-of-fraud/dating-fraud