Oh god I fancy the man in Sainsburys..

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Help me, I'm so embarrassed.. I've been single a long time, I'm a single parent. I've noticed a new manager in my local sainsburys, I've seen him several times now and whilst I don't like to read too much into things he does smile at me and make eye contact every time I see him. I saw him in the sainsburys petrol station earlier and he held the door open for me, again I can't read into that as he could do that for everyone. I'm embarrassed now as I fancy him 🤣 and have no idea how to find out if he's single. He has no wedding ring on.. I know a few of the staff there as I shop there every weekend. Shall I just leave it and save myself the humiliation?

Find an excuse to strike up a conversation about a product. Next time build on that earlier conversation by dropping in some innocent personal info. Build and build and talk and talk.

@MissHavishamsMouldyOldCake

The idea that the only acceptable way to meet someone now is through OLD or singles groups is just bizarre.

There’s loads of ways to meet people without harassing strangers. Through friends, through uni/school/college/work, no one said people can’t meet other ways, just not to approach strangers.

P/T job is your best bet I reckon 😂

Unless you happen to stumble across him on a dating site or in a pub!

Would you be ok with men approaching women at work to ask them out?
Don’t you think there’s a difference in men approaching women and women approaching men in terms of personal safety, fear, previous experiences, wondering how it’s going to end, confidence that they can say “no” without it escalating, etc?

@RainbowZebraWarrior

Meeting someone at college is a bit different to approaching a stranger!

Eh? College acquaintance / work colleague / bloke across the road. What's the difference?

A straw poll of people I know (actual long term couples)

Met at work
Met at Uni
Met in a bar (proper old fashioned!)
Introduced through friends
Met as pen pals (1960's)
Met via asking out the person out at the garage who was servicing their car.
Met while dog walking
Met at a rugby match
Met while training for Police
Met via newspaper ad (pre OLD)
Met via local wine shop (yep that one was me. Me the customer and him the assistant manager)

Things have changed A lot now, it use to be normal to meet people out and about but how women call men approaching them sexual harassment, works both ways.

@WhatisanODP

Are you sure he’s not just being polite?

My husband is a Sainsburys manager. He smiles politely at everyone.

Neither of us wear wedding rings as I can’t wear a stoned one at work (NHS) and his gets in the way when he’s doing stuff at work. Doesn’t mean we aren’t happily married. 🤣

Find out on the sly about him by all means. But don’t make it obvious or awkward 🤣

Ask your husband if there's been anyone giving him the eye in the petrol station lately

@stuntbubbles

Would you be ok with men approaching women at work to ask them out? Don’t you think there’s a difference in men approaching women and women approaching men in terms of personal safety, fear, previous experiences, wondering how it’s going to end, confidence that they can say “no” without it escalating, etc?

No if women don’t like being approached by strange men they shouldn’t do it themselves as they are sending out mixed messages, it’s ok or it isn’t.

@BabyTurtIe, you don't appear to understand the word 'harassment'. My advice for the OP to ask him to show her where the dog food is is not harassment. Conversation is not harassment.

[quote MissHavishamsMouldyOldCake]@BabyTurtIe, you don't appear to understand the word 'harassment'. My advice for the OP to ask him to show her where the dog food is is not harassment. Conversation is not harassment.[/quote]
Women call strange men approaching them “harassment”

I’ve seen the threads on here and I’m quoting them!

@BabyTurtIe, you have some weird anti-women agenda here.

Have a lovely day.

What because I’m pointing out the double standards, if women don’t want men approaching them then they shouldn’t be approaching men either.

Gonna have to ask him now 😂

Suggest a Single's Shopping event!

@Chihuahuapower

Suggest a Single's Shopping event!

Next time you’re at the checkout and you hear the beep, think of the fun you could be having on supermarket sweep!

OP I feel for you! You post a harmless thread and get some very weird backlash!

Ask your contacts if he's single and then decide if you want to pursue it if he is! No harm I used to get asked out on the checkouts

Its a bit edgy if you start to find out about this man, by way of asking other people who know him in the store. He could well have this kind of charming demeanour to most attractive women who shop in the store, kind of part of the job as a new manager. I could be wrong of course, as it might end up as the sainsburys romance of the year.

Find an excuse to talk to him about a product. (Nothing smutty!) Next time, build on that conversation but add some sort of detail about yourself that he can, if he wants, pick up on and use in his response to you. Next time, build on that conversation. Talk and build, talk and build. At some point you will know enough about him to know whether this is just first class customer service.

Op, you're not alone. I've fanciy one of the men, who work in our local Costco. I grin like a Cheshire Cat whenever I see him. I'm quite glad we've been wearing masks for the last two years cause if he saw me smiling the way I do, he'd probably run a mile 😂😂

You are definitely not alone OP I used to fancy a checkout worker at Sainsburies and we chatted a couple times and the grinning smiling and flirty eyes. I tried to go to his checkout snd always looked out for him when I was in that branch. Nothing came of it but I suppose it could have done

OP ignore the shitty replies about you being a creep or embarrassing yourself 😂 I understand your jokes just fine. People like to take things and twist them into dramatics, typical MN. God forbid somebody has a crush and approaches them right makes me wonder how people even meet their partners anymore with the word “creep” being thrown around so easy.

[quote KindlyKanga]@Partyatnumber10 not at their place of work where they are forced to stay there and can't escape if they feel uncomfortable. It's like when men hit on waitresses.[/quote]
Of course he can escape! He’ll have an office and there are plenty of back rooms in supermarkets.

@Amethystbluexo

OP ignore the shitty replies about you being a creep or embarrassing yourself 😂 I understand your jokes just fine. People like to take things and twist them into dramatics, typical MN. God forbid somebody has a crush and approaches them right makes me wonder how people even meet their partners anymore with the word “creep” being thrown around so easy.

Thank you. Honestly, the hysteria of some people. X

@BabyTurtIe

What because I’m pointing out the double standards, if women don’t want men approaching them then they shouldn’t be approaching men either.

Some women don't mind men approaching them. Not all women feel violated if a man asks them on a date.

I don't know any man or woman who have broke down in fear because they had been asked on a date by a stranger.