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Whatsapp Deleted Messages - How Can I View Them?

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ZekeZeke · 21/02/2022 11:46

BIL has been messaging OW.
Sister devestated.
He has deleted all the messages between them and told her that it was just an emotional affair.
D Sis needs to see the deleted messages for her own peace of mind (even though she will never have peace of mind).
Is there a way?
He deleted the messages and he deleted whatsapp app.
She reinstalled whatsapp but no messages are there

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rushingallday · 21/02/2022 23:18

You can retrieve them. I've done it by googling it. It's v long winded but possible. I was on android too.

Essentially, you have to use an old back up so you lose any WhatsApp messages sent to & from that phone since the relevant back up. Most phones back up once a day. So you'd have to go to the relevant back up that happened on the day that the messages were deleted (ie just before they were deleted).

This will make sense if you Google it.

All the best. Doesn't sound good. No one deletes messages if they've got nothing to hide x

thegoldenone · 22/02/2022 05:56

Hi op random question but where did he meet the ow? Have your sister spoke to the ow at all ? I would ask the ow if she could show me if there was anything going on . You never know . She might feel guilty herself and show you or wants revenge

ZekeZeke · 22/02/2022 06:21

OW is married herself.
They work in the same organisation (large).
She rang OW, when she found out.
OW said they are friends only but my BIL thinks he is in love with her.

I doubt OW has kept messages but you never know. I can suggest my sister calls her again.

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Ilovenutellaaaaa · 22/02/2022 06:27

I got old deleted WhatsApp messages by uninstalling WhatsApp, and reinstalling it to a previous back up

Ilovenutellaaaaa · 22/02/2022 06:28

The fact that he has deleted them shows he is guilty, if he was innocent then he wouldn't need to delete them...so even if she can't get to see them she knows by him deleting them that something is in those messages that he doesn't want her to know about

AlternativePerspective · 22/02/2022 06:32

All the retrieval of backups goes out the window if you delete the app.

Once you delete the app you also remove all of its data, so deleting the app will have got rid of all the messages permanently.

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 22/02/2022 08:10

I am asking a question not an opinion thanks

OK... I understand you're hurting OP. There was a reason I asked.

IME, reading the emotionally intimate messages between my partner and the OW absolutely killed any possible chance of a reconciliation. (There were also sexually explicit messages but those bothered me much less.)

I totally understand that NEED to know, but honestly for me it was a destructive urge. The messages would not leave my mind despite my wish to stay in the relationship. We wobbled along for another year until finally the last wheel fell off and I left. It was only after leaving that I found peace.

So if the aim is to stay - I would not want, personally, to read those messages.

If the aim is to get enough evidence to make a decision on leaving, then I'd take the phone to someone experienced in mobile data recovery, along with DHs Google account details.

Unless the phone has been in your possession since the discovery, unfortunately he's had plenty of time to make sure it's fully deleted - unless he's a complete numpty.

Or go to OW directly and bluff: "I've heard what DH has to say about you. I'd like to hear your side of all this." You'd need to do this in person, unannounced, as otherwise she'll just contact him so they can get their stories aligned.

Ilovenutellaaaaa · 23/02/2022 08:11

AlternativePerspective

I've deleted the app before, but as long as you have a back up saved to the cloud then when you reinstall it you can get your old messages....how do you think you can install WhatsApp on a brand new phone and get all your old messages (by the backup saved to the cloud)...if the op has a backup saved to the cloud then that's their best chance of getting the deleted messages

ZekeZeke · 23/02/2022 08:23

No back up. He handed his phone over

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