to bang or not to bang

[UrsLW81]

Okay divorced 41 year old here. I've got to talking with a much younger guy (24) and he's incredibly flirty. Not my usual type at all but the physical attraction is off the scale. I impulsively agreed when asked for my number and we are now texting a lot, is this a terrible idea to bang this guy? Would be the first time with a new guy in 20 years

I think if you want to just go for it. You're both adults!

Lucky you. Go for it!

Do it. I’m 38 and had a lot of fun with a 24 year old last year…!

@IsItTooHotInHere

How very romantic............ if a bloke said he'd like to "bang" you, would that be a compliment?!

Yup, if I wanted to bang him too, I'd be delighted. Who says you always need to be romantic.

What a lot of judgey rubbish on this thread,.,. What's wrong with a good old vigorous aux session (what 'bang' brings to mind? Really don't see the issue with the word.

Sex session

Nothing wrong with a casual fuck/bang/screw
But as a 41 year old I would find anything under 30 too young for me. A bit icky!

YABU to say "bang". You're not a teenager.

You can have sex with anyone who also wants to have sex with you.

I think the use of bang in this situation is designed to show it’s about sex, not love etc.
But anyway.. I wouldn’t hesitate! He’s not unaware of what he’s doing and has in fact initiated. No problem.

Bang him. Repeatedly. And enjoy it.

You're single, he's (presumably) single, you appear to be both on the same page. Pack some condoms in your handbag, put on your lucky knickers and go for it.

If a 41 year old man asked this about a 24 year old woman imagine the responses......but this is Mumsnet so it's ok when women do it.

I think a single man of that age having a recreational shag with a single woman in her twenties would be fine assuming she was genuinely on the same page about it being just casual sex, and there was no question of abuse of position. Why wouldn't it be OK?

@AnotherSillawithanS

If a 41 year old man asked this about a 24 year old woman imagine the responses......but this is Mumsnet so it's ok when women do it.

I wouldn’t if they are both consenting adults it’s fine. It’s a fling not a LTR.

Go for it OP. Eyes open, obvs

Go for it! Fuck classy 🙄 honestly does it make people feel good to put others down?
You must be new here. I think it's the primary reason some people post...

@Cam2020

Go for it! Fuck classy 🙄 honestly does it make people feel good to put others down? You must be new here. I think it's the primary reason some people post...

Lol

Do it
Bang each other from here to Kingdom come and back again
Please report back to us 😆😆💪

Most young men want to have sex with a much older woman, it's one thing to tick off the list

No harm in it just go in to it thinking that it may just be a one time thing

@CharacterForming

I think a single man of that age having a recreational shag with a single woman in her twenties would be fine assuming she was genuinely on the same page about it being just casual sex, and there was no question of abuse of position. Why wouldn't it be OK?

Despite what a lot of middle-aged men might hope, I think such scenarios tend to stay in the realms of wishful thinking - unless he’s someone famous or whatnot 😄. I’d imagine most younger women seeking casual sex will stick to men nearer their age. As a PP mentioned, having a “Mrs Robinson” experience is more a male fantasy and not sure if women have a similar “Mr Robinson” thing.

I think it’s fine to have a FWB it doesn’t matter how old you are!

Although at 31 I’d feel like 24 is a bit too young.

Oh what a surprise that the OP has not come back

@DonnyBurrito

Lol at all the pearl clutching over the word bang. I had a 21 year old friend who met his now long term girlfriend who was in her 40s at the time, they've been together for over 10 years now. The sex was/is the best they'd both ever had, from all accounts.

"From all accounts"!

Do people really go about telling all and sundry about their sex lives and comparing it with other partners?

How awful.

I too clutch my pearls at a 40 year old woman talking about "banging".
I imagine her saying it with a fag hanging out of the corner of her mouth and a can of triple xxx larger in the other, while teaming black fishnets with white stilettos.

Still, f that's how you think of yourself-as a bang-OP go right ahead.

Definitely bang.

Does he know how old, OP is? Does it matter? He clearly likes what he sees as it seemwd they met in RL. I’m only two years younger than OP, I would not feel the pressure to „disclose” my age if not asked, if I wanted to „bang” someone.

Do people really go about telling all and sundry about their sex lives and comparing it with other partners?

Yes

It’s very much a fantasy for younger men to have sex with older women, expecting them to be more “experienced” and voracious in some manner, I imagine he’s a keen as mustard

I'm 56 and currently seeing a 36 yo - I know what it is, a short-lived sexual fantasy, but he makes me feel alive again. Of course, it won't last, but fortunately, we are very good friends and we both know it's not a forever thing.

But how I wish I was 20 years younger and could have a proper relationship with him .... if my friends knew they'd assume he'd homed in on a vulnerable woman, if his friends knew, he'd be teased ... oh how it would be different if the ages were reversed! I hate the secrecy.