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EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 07/02/2022 12:41

The vast majority of times I've been asked this, it's been a way for them to introduce their SPH kink (Small Penis Humiliation).

However in this case with the ridiculous "processing" comment, I agree with PPs that this is showing tendencies to blame you and make you feel guilty for HIS irrational insecurities about things that happened before you met him.

Bin this idiot off! At least he's revealed his true self relatively early doors, before you've made major commitments.

Chichimcgee · 07/02/2022 13:03

Woman says to man, habe you ever had sex with someone who had the perfect sized breasts.

The difference is a woman would never ask this.

MarchFourth · 07/02/2022 15:17

SPH kink (Small Penis Humiliation). Yes, like Max Clifford. He rang up a woman and pretended to be someone else talking about what a small penis Max Clifford had. Hahahhahahahhaha, apologies to any sph people, it is quite funny though.

Also though, the vast majority of times you've been asked it Even? How many times have you been asked it? I never have. How usual is this? Are you a former loveur of Max and he asked it over and over?

altmember · 07/02/2022 21:01

Obviously, it's a stupid thing to ask a partner, everyone has a history so it's better to just accept that and not ask for specifics.

Women complain about the unrealistic physiques of females in porn, and it's just the same for men - they're all well endowed.

Reality is, size matters, so no wonder men can feel insecure about it. Every woman will have a feature about their body that they feel insecure about, could be anything from sticking out ears to the shape of their toes. But for men, the absolute no 1 thing that pretty much every man feels insecure about is the size of his manhood.

And here's why:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sex/4365971-Too-Small

ShallWeTalkAboutBruno · 07/02/2022 21:03

The vast majority of times I've been asked this, it's been a way for them to introduce their SPH kink (Small Penis Humiliation)

How many times have you been asked?!
No one has ever asked me, thankfully. I’d just laugh and that would probably be the end of the relationship.

Anothergreatday · 07/02/2022 21:08

[quote altmember]Obviously, it's a stupid thing to ask a partner, everyone has a history so it's better to just accept that and not ask for specifics.

Women complain about the unrealistic physiques of females in porn, and it's just the same for men - they're all well endowed.

Reality is, size matters, so no wonder men can feel insecure about it. Every woman will have a feature about their body that they feel insecure about, could be anything from sticking out ears to the shape of their toes. But for men, the absolute no 1 thing that pretty much every man feels insecure about is the size of his manhood.

And here's why:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sex/4365971-Too-Small[/quote]
Then maybe men should stop watching so much porn - seeing as they are the majority consumers
If they are so worried about being compared by penis size maybe they need to think how it is to live in a world where you are compared in breast size , weight , complexion, the size of you hips , your age , your face and whether it’s ‘pretty? , your legs , your waist measurement …. Wow the list could keep going on for women and the things we are constantly measured on … yet poor babies are worried about their doodles because the porn industry predominately created by men for men is causing them to have unrealistic expectation
Sorry but it’s literally laughable

Anothergreatday · 07/02/2022 21:10

And yes many men have kinks around small penis stuff and secretly love this stuff . It’s a big part of the whole cuckolding genre

Anothergreatday · 07/02/2022 21:16

@altmember
Also strange that the things you mentioned women having insecurities about didn’t included not one of the many things women are exhibiting in porn . I’m sure millions more women are insecure about their bodies , breast, hips , not being young and pretty and how they compare to the porn stars etc than their toe sticking out
You actually just highlighted how little insight men have into why that might bother some women , yet I don’t see a whole lot of women asking their partners if their breasts are as big ad the women he’s jerking of too in porn

Marineboy67 · 07/02/2022 21:19

[quote altmember]Obviously, it's a stupid thing to ask a partner, everyone has a history so it's better to just accept that and not ask for specifics.

Women complain about the unrealistic physiques of females in porn, and it's just the same for men - they're all well endowed.

Reality is, size matters, so no wonder men can feel insecure about it. Every woman will have a feature about their body that they feel insecure about, could be anything from sticking out ears to the shape of their toes. But for men, the absolute no 1 thing that pretty much every man feels insecure about is the size of his manhood.

And here's why:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sex/4365971-Too-Small[/quote]
I get this and why but that's just the way it is...you have to suck it up and make the most of whatever size you are. Concentrate on why your with somebody and what you have together. You can't punish someone for having sex with a bigger dick before you.
I don't think after a year it mattered to the OP about her partners cock size.
The guys got insecurities which he needs to sort out for himself. No sense bringing that shit in to relationships.

Anothergreatday · 07/02/2022 21:24

@Marineboy67 well said !

FedUpOfLighteningCrotch · 07/02/2022 21:27

Are we talking micro penis or just smaller than average?

Perhaps he need dick therapy to overcome his insecurities. If he can’t do that he’ll him to stiff it.

TheFoundation · 07/02/2022 23:27

I hate how this situation is making me feel a bit - I don't know how to explain - like I've done something wrong

How does he feel about this? Have you told him it makes you feel crappy?

Tamworth123 · 08/02/2022 00:30

Have you noticed any other bat shit behaviour/thinking during the last year?

You haven't done anything wrong, he asked an inappropriate, foolish, silly, (odds are somebody is going to have a bigger dick than him if he's avg or bekoe avg) nvasive question and then hassled you til you answered. You could have lied (shouldn't have to have) but he still probably wouldn't have accepted that.

He has major issues.

Tamworth123 · 08/02/2022 00:38

Let's just drill down to his aemeboa like level of thinking;

Women apparently like big dicks in porn.
That means all women like big dicks.
My dick isn't as big as some men in porn.
Maybe op isn't satisfied with my dick (?)
That would depend entirely on whether she's had bigger (nothing else matters).
I'll ask her and badger her about whether she's had bigger.
I'll not consider that but perfectly possible she has, given I'm not well above average.

She says she has; that meabs she can never be satisfied with me, and sex with me; I should probably dump her.

But if I di dunp her, will the next woman have had bigger than me too?

Decisions, decisions.

Maybe shell be grateful for my not so big dick because she's scared im dumpling her, feels insecure .. I she cries and begs and pleads enough, I might give it a chance .... but then she never will forget aboit those dicks bigger than mine, vecause thsts all that matters in sex so ... what a bind.

I clearly need a virgin, I'll have to get a religious woman or a mail order bride from a very Conservative country.

Tamworth123 · 08/02/2022 00:42

Tbh you should be getting rid of someone so basic, dumb, and misogynist full stop.

A year is not a long time, sometimes it takes a year to see the crazy.

You have now seen it, you cannot unsee it.

Even if you (appear to).get past this, I bet I will crop up again or something else similar.

He may even be a red pill-er.

Tamworth123 · 08/02/2022 00:47

Think about the equivalent; woman asks man has he had tighter than her vagina, he doesbt want to answer, she badgers him til he reluctantly answers yes, so and so was a bit tighter .... she is upset and says she needs to process this and implies she might end their yr long relationship.

I think we can say she is massively insecure, massuvely immature, has issues, is very simple minded, is a bit bat shit, is treating him v unfairly etc. and is not in a place to be in a healthy relationship.

The same applies to him, no ifs, bits, ands or maybes.

Ihaveroyallyscrewedup · 08/02/2022 00:48

I was asked this once, was stunned for a moment, dealt with it with over the top amateur dramatics in my best attempt at a southern drawl, fawning over the amazing penis, the man understood he was an idiot.

AuntTwacky · 08/02/2022 00:54

@incognitomode10

This is an odd one, I just can't get my head around it. Bf & I are both in 40s, been together for over a year, both have DC from previous marriage/relationship.

He asked me a week ago if I had ever been with anybody with a large penis. I tried to evade to question, but he persisted, so I said yes, but actually it wasn't great.

Since then he's been cold and distant and said he needs time to "process the information" and now says that he can't get over it, so I think the relationship is over.

I don't understand what he's hoping for. That he will find a woman who hasn't been with a man with a large penis? How will he verify this? I hate how this situation is making me feel a bit - I don't know how to explain - like I've done something wrong...?!

So childish!

Tamworth123 · 08/02/2022 00:56

Reality is, size matters, so no wonder men can feel insecure about it.

Personally I don't think it matters unless a man is at extreme ends of the scale.

Extremely end towards big actually becomes a problem for many women.

Extreme end towards small may also be, but fact is I've been with men who were v small and all of them had had numerous good looking partners, in plenty of cases whom they had cheated on or they had left, not the other way around.
Women can be v accepting on that front, other things are more important to them.

Within the average range, the majority.... given up to 80% of us can't climax from penetrative sex, a man who is skilful and enthusiastic at foreplay, manual, oral etc stuff is my ideal, and probably many women's. So size is much less important than men think it is.

sykadelic · 08/02/2022 01:19

I've been with a guy with a large penis. I'm talking "I have to buy large condoms"... sure you do. Asked him to prove it, twas hilarious! That said, can't say it really did anything different to any other "average" size. Wasn't any better looking (are they ever?) so whoop-de-doo.

Chichimcgee · 08/02/2022 01:27

The best sex I ever had was with a guy who had a huge penis, like ridiculously big but I think it was more experience than size that made it mind blowing

Bortles · 08/02/2022 01:30

I couldnt ever get over how pathetic this reaction of his is.

Chichimcgee · 08/02/2022 01:40

@incognitomode10

Is he still sulking or have parcels for penis enlargers arrived yet?

Anothergreatday · 08/02/2022 01:52

@Tamworth123

Reality is, size matters, so no wonder men can feel insecure about it.

Personally I don't think it matters unless a man is at extreme ends of the scale.

Extremely end towards big actually becomes a problem for many women.

Extreme end towards small may also be, but fact is I've been with men who were v small and all of them had had numerous good looking partners, in plenty of cases whom they had cheated on or they had left, not the other way around.
Women can be v accepting on that front, other things are more important to them.

Within the average range, the majority.... given up to 80% of us can't climax from penetrative sex, a man who is skilful and enthusiastic at foreplay, manual, oral etc stuff is my ideal, and probably many women's. So size is much less important than men think it is.

Agree with everything you said Tamworth but let’s not give the penis sulkers any explanation. I think they get off on it . Whining about their willies as if women don’t have insecurities Only difference is we women are mature enough not to be asking our partners about our fannies like you said 😂

Winterautumn · 08/02/2022 01:56

@TyrantosaurusRex

Sounds like a red flag, I've been asked the same, I gave the same answer as you too. In my case he was also obsessed with the idea but there was a steady flow of questions, all which made me feel uncomfortable. He's now in my past and taken the title as the biggest penis I've been with, but not because of the size of his teeny peeny.

The red flag here is that he's making you feel bad for something he asked you to tell him. You've done nothing wrong and you don't need to justify/explain or apologise for any relationships/encounters you had previous to this lunatic.

Plenty more penises around, I hope you'll find a man without one on his head soon!

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