Does anyone have a soulmate DH or DP ?

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We hear so many utter heart breaking and gut wrenching stories on here of DH and DP being utter pricks and lying cheating selfish bastards,i have been wondering if anyone has the most wonderful DH or DP who puts them first and is their soulmate and what makes them wonderful in your eyes

Together over 30 years (married 29 yrs) & never been happier ..challenges along the way but we've got thru stronger

Yess! My husband is amazing so supportive and kind and he is actually a good dad (not like the good dads that are alcoholics and ignore their kids you read about on here) I am so thankful everyday I wake up and ses him.

Yes mine is my soul mate. I go to say something weird or random and he literally takes the words out mouth.

My partner is my soul mate Mo Anam Cara in Gaelic. We met online 7 years ago. I fell in love on 2 date 🤫🤫🤫 he is kind, loving, supportive and also tells me when I am wrong. Perfect partnership.

@knittingaddict

Actually soulmates confuse we as a concept. What if he's your soul mate, but also a bit of a dick. If he's genuinely a lovely man then that's what your drawn to, rather than it being a soulmate thing.

There was a thread on here once from someone describing their relationship with someone they considered their soulmate. Honestly the man seemed to be borderline abusive, but they were "soulmates" so she couldn't leave him. All very odd.

True. I've read people on here talking about their soul mate and the guy is simply abusive and the woman is addicted and vulnerable. I also had a friend whose DH is her soul mate according to her. He's got several other soul mates on the side.

I don't believe in souls full stop. I think sometimes physical compatibility (and our pheromones and hormones know a good match), coincide with genuine respect and like for another person and you fall in love. It's not soul mates though. In fact, I find the concept detracts from the effort and time you put into being a good partner. It's not destiny or fate or joined souls. What are the chances my soul mate went to the same bog standard college as me in rural Norfolk? I met a bloke I liked and we made it work. We are very happy and entirely compatible.

Of course people who believe in the concept will tell me that I haven't met mine. Well, if they exist, I don't want mine as there has only ever been and will only be DH.

What a lovely thread.

As others have said, I don't think you can say they're with their soulmate and then add a caveat. If there is such a thing, and I like to believe there is something along those lines, albeit they're a rare beast, then I'm married to mine. Like some of the others have said, he's simply the best person I know.

We've been together for 16 years and it still feels new and fresh, and I never tired of his company, nor he mine. Which is just as well as we both live and work together and we've created a wonderful life that has far exceeded our expectations, including happy, healthy, wonderful children. He is never unkind, disrespectful or selfish, and he prizes my happiness over everything else. Every single day he will do or say something that makes my heart sing, and I try to do the same for him.

My husband was my soulmate, the one person I could count on .. until I discovered his double life. Now sadly I trust not a living soul 😌

I don't think anyone can answer that until you're at the end of your life. Sorry to be a downer, I thought my ex husband was my 'soulmate' until he cheated and left.

I'm remarried now and my husband is amazing and the best thing that ever happened to me (apart from my sons obviously) and I'd love to think he'd never cheat and I trust him completely (like I did with my ex!) but the truth is, no-one ever knows for certain.

@drybird

My husband was my soulmate, the one person I could count on .. until I discovered his double life. Now sadly I trust not a living soul 😌

Exactly, a small part of me will always have my guard up. I used to say with my ex that he would never ever cheat on me, that's not who he is etc etc but he did. Such is life! And I don't mean that flippantly, I went to hell and back when it happened but I came out the other end, just stronger 👍🏼

After a very bad first marriage, I met and married my soulmate within a year. Now in our fourth decade of marriage we're stronger, happier and closer every day.

Yep my Dh is my best friend in the whole world x
He is my other half totally. Fell in love with him in about two minutes!
Not to say we don't argue at times or He gets on my nerves ( as I'm sure I get on his!) But he really is my favourite person xxx

Me and DH have been very happily married for 42 years and are very much in love.

He drives me mad at time but he is my best friend, he makes me laugh all the time, he is kind and considerate and has always been there for me.

I do feel we are soul mates because we can almost read each other's mind. So many times I am thinking about something random and DH will say something about the same thing. Often he goes to speak and I just know what he is going to say even though, again, it is usually pretty random and nothing to do with where we are, what we are doing etc

I think the concept of soulmates is ridiculous but my husband is definitely 'my human', we have such an easy relationship and have from the get-go. I wouldn't be without him for anything.

@LowlyTheWorm

Yes. I am truly thankful every single day that we met and he married me. Second husband and it’s like the polar opposite of my first marriage in terms of being supported and cherished and appreciated. We are a team and best friends and he is fantastic in bed. I am sooooo lucky. But I know it.

Exactly the same here. We're so happy we make ourselves feel sick sometimes 🤣. Seriously though; after us both having toxic abusive exes the fact that we've found each other feels incredibly lucky. I didn't realise how easy a relationship could be until now xx

@AllTheColoursOfGerberas

33 years married and he's worth his weight in gold Met and married within 4 months

Wow that's amazing!!!

@NutCheeseBag

Yes, we were married 42 years. I miss him every day.

I'm really sorry 😞

Soul mates, or not, I’ve really enjoyed reading this thread. It gives me hope that one day I will find something like this.

@NutCheeseBag

Yes, we were married 42 years. I miss him every day.

I’m so sorry to hear that. Take comfort in what you both had together.

I feel lucky every day for my DH. He's never once given me cause to question how much he loves me. Honest to a fault. Emotionally aware. Hard working. Supportive. Funny. Brilliant Dad and Step Dad. Hot

And he tells me how lucky he is regularly.

@WhenwillIlearntoadult

Soul mates, or not, I’ve really enjoyed reading this thread. It gives me hope that one day I will find something like this.

You will just keep your standards high.

Yes. He’s wonderful, I’m so lucky to have him in my life.

@Crystalvas That’s where I went wrong before! Definitely not looking for now but there is hope for the future 😁

Yes, without a doubt!
DH is the most incredible person I’ve ever met. He adores me, and I him.
Following many years of being with awful men (12 years with exH), then 6 years of dating numerous unsuitable men, I found him, thank god!

I don't believe in soul mates, I believe in people. My DH is my person, no doubt. He's a truly great human.

[quote WhenwillIlearntoadult]@Crystalvas That’s where I went wrong before! Definitely not looking for now but there is hope for the future 😁[/quote]
There always hope. Almost gave up myself only I met and married the most amazing man no exaggeration. Hes my rock and there for me in every way. Through the good and bad. Been together a long time. I read so many stories on here about bad relationships and my heart goes out to everyone of them. Good luck funding him.