Does anyone have a soulmate DH or DP ?

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We hear so many utter heart breaking and gut wrenching stories on here of DH and DP being utter pricks and lying cheating selfish bastards,i have been wondering if anyone has the most wonderful DH or DP who puts them first and is their soulmate and what makes them wonderful in your eyes

I'm happily married to a very good man.

Soulmates are a load of old bollocks imho. But DH is my equal partner and we are very happy well into our third decade.

My parents - married young, 61 years together, absolutely rock solid throughout.

I like to think my DH and I are soulmates. It took us both a few years to get over being fragile and hypervigilant after coming out of our first marriages, but right from the start there was an awareness that we had enough to sustain us even if we could no longer do the activities that were our shared interest, and a sense of peace from just being in a room together. So different from the spikiness of my first marriage.

I think one of my daughters has landed in a soulmate relationship too, and DH and I love being around her and her partner.

Didn’t believe in soulmates until I met mine. We met “late” and the wait was worth it. Every day is an absolute laugh, am completely myself around him, feel utterly supported in life and - most bafflingly given how much I crave solitude - I want him around all the time! Also fancy the arse off him and the sex is awesome. It’s mad. He’s my best, best friend. 5 years on and I still can’t believe I found him!!

DH and I have been in love with each other for 30 years. He’s my strength when I feel weak and my safe haven. He says that he didn’t know he had something missing inside until he met me. We can make each other laugh, we can make each other cry. He knows what I’m thinking and thinks I can read his mind (I can’t I just know how he thinks) at the moment he is ill with his chronic illness but instead of focusing on himself he’s helping me get through an emotionally difficult time with my mum having recently been diagnosed with cancer. For every bad day we’ve had, there have been 1000 good ones. He’s the love of my life and I feel blessed. Now I’m going to go give him a hug and tell him he’s great.

My DP is a wonderful man, I was a single parent for over ten years, kissed a few frogs, then met DP and it just clicked. Mad physical chemistry, really on the same wavelength, he makes me laugh and finds ways to make my life easier. Our children get on brilliantly too, have done since they met. I've been with him longer than I was with EXH now, and he still surprises me - only in good ways!! Love the bones of that man and love our little blended family

Yes I love him so much. He's a knob at times but so am I and we've been through so much together and I know that no matter how bad my day is I can go home to him.

Yes. We have been together for 28 years and he can still make my heart flutter.

I don’t believe in soulmates but I have a lovely husband and a very happy marriage

I feel lucky
I had and lost mine, he was perfect and died before we could marry.
15 years of searching and I've found that feeling again.
He's absolutely perfect, we work so well together he adores me, I adore him.
Everything in between my 2 loves feel like a waste of my time (which is sad, but true)

@Shoxfordian

I don’t believe in soulmates but I have a lovely husband and a very happy marriage

Same here. I've friends who are single because they want "a soulmate".

Yes I do.
So do my sisters and my parents.
In laws as well.

Yep my DH is amazing. Not only did he pull me through a really bad MH patch he is now my main carer after I lost my mobility very suddenly last Christmas. I'm getting a little bit of movement back now but in the beginning he would sleep downstairs on a chair with me as I couldn't get up the stairs, he showered me, he still does most of the cooking and cleaning, taxis the DC around. I honestly don't know what I would do without him.

He makes me laugh and brings a smile to my face even on the dark days. I hope I do the same for him. He is awesome.

Yes.
It took me a while to find her and we havn’t been together for anywhere near as long as some on this thread.

If I had posted about her when we met, I’d of been told she wasn’t into me and to LTB as she’s a commitmentphobe, didn’t express her feelings and then briefly ended things when I was pushing to clarify it as a relationship. However it worked out, we now own a house and a dog, her friends all say to me ‘You tamed Wild pony Lucy’ (not real name) because anytime a relationship got serious, she wanted out so I pinch myself everyday to try and understand how I got to keep her.

But I can hands on heart say she has the best heart. She always has my corner; I’ve really struggled with my mental health the last few years and she has completely and utterly had my back. We rarely argue, we talk things out like rational adults, we laugh all the time and have so much fun together.
I feel secure and loved.

I don't believe in soul mates but I did marry one of the good ones and been married over 30 years now.

I do think it's as much about having zero tolerance for any signs that they aren't decent men. Obviously some people only show their true colours later, but I'm often amazed about some of the behaviour that is ignored or overlooked.

Yeah I'd say mine is. Been together almost 20 years and I wouldn't want to be with anyone else. Puts me first in the bedroom and puts up with my anxiety wobbles. I also support him.

Actually soulmates confuse we as a concept. What if he's your soul mate, but also a bit of a dick. If he's genuinely a lovely man then that's what your drawn to, rather than it being a soulmate thing.

There was a thread on here once from someone describing their relationship with someone they considered their soulmate. Honestly the man seemed to be borderline abusive, but they were "soulmates" so she couldn't leave him. All very odd.

@Buzzer3555

Me and the old bugger get along just fine. He's like my favourite cardigan.

This just about sums it up 😁 He talks over my favourite programmes, sleeps through the baby crying, and can't even boil an egg in the kitchen, but I wouldn't be without him for the world 🥰

I love DP he's emotionally intelligent, gorgeous and fun but very grounded. I find him a huge comfort and he makes me feel so loved. There is an intensity to our relationship.

Not really sure what people mean by soul mate but my husband and I have been together 22 years and I am utterly in love with him, he’s incredibly kind and clever and funny and I feel unbelievably lucky.

I have a lovely DH, we met at 17, lived together at 18, been married 28 years this year. We have always been happy together. He knows me better than anybody. He has always supported me, helped me build confidence (I was lacking in confidence, when we met). He is the best husband and father to our sons, I could ever wish for.

I dont know if I believe in soul mates, but my DH and I both knew within a couple of hours of meeting each other that we would get married (which we did 3 months later). That was 11 years ago, and he is still my favourite person. He is definitely not without his annoying traits, but compared to some of the things I read about on here, he is one of the good guys for sure :)

Yes. He truly is the other half of me and I would be lost without him.

My husband is a diamond. I knew as soon as I met him that he was a good sort. Been married 20 years.

My bf is not my soulmate. We have lived such different lives that it's amazing we get on at all. Rather than being inseparable, we prefer to live apart to keep the relationship fresh. Lockdown was a challenge at first as we'd previously spent very little time sitting around indoors together; our thing was going out.

I stayed over at his place last night for a bit of extra support as he was starting a new job this morning. Before he left he told me he'd left the fare for my bus home on the table in case I didn't have the right change. Despite his nerves, he'd also considered how I'd be getting back home. He is excellent.

I don't believe in soulmates, but I was lucky I met someone I was very compatible with 7 years ago and we're still together. He's not perfect, but he's loyal and loving and extremely supportive. And also very clean, organised and tidy by nature, which I appreciate. We had a 9-hour long first date (that afternoon coffee turned into so much more) and we knew we wanted to give US a go from then on.

Something I really admire in him is that he always knows what he wants/needs and works hard for it, be it a nice flat, a great vacuum cleaner, a job or a partner.