My partner is handsy

[mumsy23baby]

I'm 32 and have been with my partner for nearly 6 years. He's not committing to marriage which is a problem for me.
Tonight we went to my friends birthday and he was very handsy (touchy feely) with all of my friends. He even told my friend that her leather trousers looked very sexy and she did too. He is so over familiar with people and gets their numbers all the time and text people in a friendly way and not to be flirty but it really annoys me. There seem to be no boundaries. Every time I say it annoys me he tell me I'm insecure and jealous. I'm nearing ending this relationship. Thoughts?

He's not "handsy" He's a sex pest. He harasses women. He has zero respect for their boundaries and for you as a partner.

I can't believe you've been with him for nearly 6 years Were you treated poorly by previous partners and/or your parents? You deserve much better than this - everyone does.

LTB.

I Assume he doesn't put his hands on men and ask for their numbers?

This is a really positive post. You've recognised the problem, identified the solution and haven't yet come back with "but I love him and it's been 6 years". Don't waste more time. You are best off moving on.

32 is such a good age to start afresh with someone looking for marriage and children and having kids by a reasonable point in your 30s. I've got friends male and female that did just that. It seems like some people have a 20s relationship which is not their forever relationship and then find someone right when its time to settle down.

Boak

You deserve so much better

He sounds like a sex pest. Move on and find the relationship you want.

End it. He won’t change and your whole life will be spent feeling sad and watching him behave inappropriately to other women. One day that will really backfire for him. Plus he won’t commit anyway. Bin him off.

I can guarantee your friends think he’s a sleazy creep.

Why on earth do you put up with it? Set you sights higher and get rid.

Oh god don't waste any more of your time on this one! Get out of there.
You know what he is doing isn't right. He is manipulating you.
Listen to your inner feelings on this.

If my friends partner spoke to me like that I’d vom. That is creepy and gross. Get rid of the inappropriate weirdo.

Every time I say it annoys me he tell me I'm insecure and jealous.

Ah the standard retort of every man who wants to have his cake (you at home doing the drudge work) and eat it (all those exciting ladies who he is convinced will drop their knickers as soon as he messages them ).

He is deluded and disrespectful. Ditch him and go on to live a life free of this creep. You deserve so much better.

You are minimising his disgusting behaviour.

Why have you stayed so long with a guy who has no respect for you, behaves like a creep and does not give you the security you need in the relationship?

You are making excuses for his behaviour. Stop letting him walk all over you. Leave him and find someone who will treat you correctly.

What have your friends said about his behaviour?

What did you learn about relationships when you were growing up?. Is this person all you think you deserve from a relationship?. Why are you settling for so little here from a man who has no intentions whatsoever of marrying, let alone marrying you.

He a sex pest who also thinks he is gods gift to women. Your friends all hate him and view you with a mix of pity and concern.

He’s a creep. He’s a weirdo. Other Radiohead lyrics are available. You’ve allowed him to behave like this towards your friends. You’ve backed down when he gaslights you and played right into his greasy, sweaty, grabby little hands. You say he won’t commit to marriage. GOOD! The last thing you want is to be permanently attached to this scumbag. I’m praying there are no children involved so you can get rid, move on and find someone worth loving. If you’re nearing the point of ending the relationship then it sounds like you’ve pretty much checked out emotionally. Good luck.

End it, even you do get married I'll guarantee you'll be back on here having found evidence of affairs
He's telling you who he is...please listen

Creep.

Run.

I can't believe you have had 6 years of this and are still tolerating it. If you were one of my mates I would have said something to you about him. I bet your mates are all talking about him being sleazy and feeling sorry for you but don't want to upset you.

Stop it now and dump him.

Your poor friends. I'd be mortified. Get rid.

Your friends will be relieved when it’s over. Why would you stay with the man?!

He's baiting your friends to see if any of them bite? I bet he'd jump if he had the chance. You don't expect he'll change do you?

I have a friend whose husband is like this and has sent some pretty shocking messages to me. It’s not good. Leave.

I had a friend whose husband was like this. In his 70s. All touchy feely and asking about my “love life “ - you mean my sex life you old perv ? No thanks .

The best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour... so if you're looking forward to a few more years of excrutiating embarassment being made to feel worthless and insecure by his behaviour, stay with him, otherwise....

If he is like this in front of you WTF is he doing behind your back?