I've been with my DP for 5 years, since I was 17 and I'm now 22 and I want to leave, I'm deeply unhappy and have been for a while but I feel guilty and scared and I would like a handhold/some advice on how to go about it.
DP is 30, has a history of depression, suicidal thoughts, drink and drug problems (has been sober for years now) and has previously told me if I ever left he'd go back to drinking.
He loves DD, is a lovely dad to her but we just don't get on. He isn't a nice person, we argue constantly, he makes nasty comments all the time, he is rude to people, argumentative, he has depression which I find really difficult to live with (I've tried helping him by getting him counselling and to speak to the GP), he won't go out and do stuff with me, the first few weeks of DDs life are ruined for me as he spent the whole time being really spiteful and nasty to me including laughing at me when the baby blues hit and I was crying because he wouldn't hand DD back to me, the list goes on.
After a year together he wanted to move to another city 300 miles away from my friends and family to "further his career" and said he was going wether I was coming or not so I stupidly went with him, we spent three years there and he spent the whole time unemployed and I really resent him for that as what should've been the most exciting years for me were spent hours away from my friends and family and working to pay for both of us.
He doesn't have a single friend, it's just me and him and all the friends I've made since having DD he's bad mouthed or tried to get me to stop seeing them (we planned a group day out at the aquarium but he didn't want me to go as he wanted to be the first to take DD, I wanted to go for a walk with two friends in Wales but he didn't want me to take DD that far away etc)
At the moment he is being really nice to me but I still want to go, I've tried to discuss being unhappy a few times but I'm told I'm being hormonal or being silly and when I discussed it yesterday he said we are fine it's just because we are tired and living in a small flat.
So I feel like I can't have a sensible discussion with him about being unhappy as he just shuts it down, so I'm going to have to straight up tell him I don't want to be with him anymore which makes me feel horrible.
Sorry for the rant I could just really do with some advice/a push because I'm really scared and feeling alone. Please be nice!