Wanted me to wear make up to bed

[JerkintheMerkin]

My EXP used to ask me to wear make up to bed. I never did but it got me thinking - would you be offended if your partner asked you the same?

Yes of course - that would be absurd, very bad for your skin and ruinous to your bed linen. And absurd.

That's ridiculous.

I've fallen asleep with makeup on most weekends when I was a youth and always end up waking up looking like a panda or racoon.

I wouldn’t like my partner telling me what to wear

Do you mean for sex or to sleep? For sex it would depend how it was asked but I wouldn't automatically be offended, to sleep I would be very unimpressed.

My ex did. But it was just one of the ways he was an abusive cunt.

Yes I’d be offended. I’d ask him to wear a bigger dick to bed.

Yes. Firstly because it’s extremely insulting, but also because it would wreck both my skin and my sheets.

I’m not sure how a man could ask that with a straight face or how the immediate reaction wouldn't be dumping him.

@Interrobanger 😂

Really? Some men are plain weird in thinking that's ever appropriate. My dp isn't keen on make up particularly thankfully

Christ what a way to ruin your sheets and skin!

I wouldn't do this for anybody! In my teens and sometimes now if I've had a heavy one. Which is a rarity as I have a 14 month old it will happen but when I wake up my skin feels horribly dry.

I'd be so offended if someone asked me to do this!

Never had anyone ask me to do this and yes it’s rude

I'd be offended if any partner ever asked me to wear makeup during the day. I do wear makeup, most days. But it's nothing to do with dh and I definitely wouldn't want his opinion. I wouldn't mind him asking me not to though as it's gross and does ruin your bedding.

Depends on context.

Going on a nice date night and as soon as you're home the make up comes off and frumpy pjs put on, I can see why they might ask if you can keep it on for sex. It's an odd thing because make up is used to look your best out in public (e.g. on a date) but then typically you don't want to keep up that effort the moment you get back in the door, even though it probably is a bit of a treat for partner if you kept it on for a bit. Like you'll make the effort for the strangers out there but won't keep it on for a bit at home and make the effort for your partner IYSIM. So wouldn't say unreasonable here.

However if its at the end of a regular day e.g. spent at home, where no makeup has been worn and the expectation is for you to put it on for a romp or indeed sleep all night in it. That is definitely unreasonable.

Did he want you to do it all the time or just occasionally?

Treat for your partner? That's an odd way to think about makeup.

Wear makeup for yourself. Don't put it on just for bed or to sleep in. Oddness.

I'd tell him to fuck off.

even though it probably is a bit of a treat for partner if you kept it on for a bit

That’s the oddest thing I’ve read in a long while.

@ParishSpinster

Treat for your partner? That's an odd way to think about makeup.

Wear makeup for yourself. Don't put it on just for bed or to sleep in. Oddness.

Did he want you to wear it every night? I would be very offended!!

@Interrobanger

Yes I’d be offended. I’d ask him to wear a bigger dick to bed.

🤣🤣🤣 brilliant!

I opened this thinking it was going to be about a first night with someone OP had met on OLD, not someone’s actual partner they had chosen to be in a relationship with.

And what’s with all this talk of it being a treat for one’s partner or “making the effort.” Presumably when you’re having sex you’re naked, so to suggest that you be naked apart from having a made up face is bloody insulting.

But then I would tell my partner to fuck off if he told me to wear makeup during the day let alone at night.

I’d be offended if a partner asked me to wear make up at all, regardless of the time of day.

Make up as a treat for your partner?!

Just drill down into how weird that is. 'For one magical hour longer, you can pretend I actually look like this' -???

All night, or do you mean during sex? Did he rarely see you without it? Are you Mrs Maisel?

Yes. What the hell?!

He wanted me to wear it to bed for sex. Looking back I can't believe the gall of him tbh. I do wear make up during the day but not loads by any stretch of the imagination.