Wanted me to wear make up to bed

[JerkintheMerkin]

My EXP used to ask me to wear make up to bed. I never did but it got me thinking - would you be offended if your partner asked you the same?

would you be offended if your partner asked you the same?

Was responding to this from the OP.

@JorisBonson only now I realise it was just one of the many ways he was abusive.

@Interrobanger my sentiments exactly. Along with a six pack and some chest hair

@JerkintheMerkin ditto, scary isn't it!

@AnotherMansCause

All night, or do you mean during sex? Did he rarely see you without it? Are you Mrs Maisel?

He always saw me without it at home. I assume he preferred to have sex with the "pretty" version of me.

@Interrobanger

Yes I’d be offended. I’d ask him to wear a bigger dick to bed.

Please be my friend.

Errr.....yes!! What was he thinking asking such a thing??? You're not allowed to have your own face even when you're sleeping? That it was so important to have you all made-up, that you were so unattractive to him without it that you could never have any downtime.....ever???

I actually laughed when I read it because it's so cheeky and offensive.....it's just beyond!!

Also regarding that he wanted during sex - I know some men like red lipstick.....but if he expected you to have a full face of make-up every time during it....that's just offensive OP.

@Bluntness100

even though it probably is a bit of a treat for partner if you kept it on for a bit

That’s the oddest thing I’ve read in a long while.

I can see where PP is coming from. I suppose it depends if you intend to do the deed or keep the romance going when you get back. If so, look at it the same way as clothes - if you've both dressed up for a date night then it does pour cold water on things a bit if, as soon as you step through the front door, you both change out of the evening wear and into pyjamas. To each their own though, I guess.

Not sure if I would term someone as abusive for that alone......but I wouldn't think highly of them, that's for sure.

What a wonderful man!

That would be a "no". Not unless he was also planning to do something to make himself more attractive to me, and since men in makeup doesn't "do it" for me, the options are limited. He'd be dumped.

I'm happy for you that you're no longer with that jerk!

I'd only do it if he did too!

Seriously though. Of course it's offensive.

Wow yes absolutely I'd be offended. That is really horrible.

@JerkintheMerkin

He wanted me to wear it to bed for sex. Looking back I can't believe the gall of him tbh. I do wear make up during the day but not loads by any stretch of the imagination.

Every time or just occasionally?

@user1481840227 I think he wanted it occasionally but either way that's just downright rude imo.

One of my first boyfriends used to tell me what to wear, he took me shopping once and chose me a whole outfit 😬. It’s only now I’m older that I realise what a c&nt he was. Now being old and wise I wouldn’t let any man tell me what to wear (probably why I’m single).

I wouldn't have a problem with his asking, as long as the answer no was also fine. Same as wearing sexy underwear, or almost any other request, really. If he demanded I wear it every time or sex was off the table, that's a different story.

@Lovemusic33

One of my first boyfriends used to tell me what to wear, he took me shopping once and chose me a whole outfit 😬. It’s only now I’m older that I realise what a c&nt he was. Now being old and wise I wouldn’t let any man tell me what to wear (probably why I’m single).

It should've been Kim's first clue that Kanye was a massive tosser too.

[quote JerkintheMerkin]@user1481840227 I think he wanted it occasionally but either way that's just downright rude imo. [/quote]
This wouldn't bother me personally and I wouldn't find it rude as I wouldn't have an issue with asking a man to do or wear certain things for me occasionally either!

I think a lot of us don't wear make up at all. (Our choice entirely - no criticism at all of people who like to wear it. It's an art form, in its own way. Can look really amazing.)
But - and I bet many other no-make-up wearers would agree with me - I don't think it greatly influences how much our DH/DPs fancy us.

It's really unpleasant and indeed rather repulsive, as others have said, that you were expected to put on a mask - however clever/attractive/skilful/artistic in itself- to make yourself desirable for another person.

I don't usually wear make up when I'm awake so there's hee haw chance I'd be wearing it to the ... boudoir.

I'd be too busy filing the divorce papers to be offended.

I would be offended, yes. Glad to hear he's an ex.

I went to bed with make up on for the first time in 10 years a few months back (too exhausted to take it off) and got 2 nasty, extremely painful styes on the same lid, right next to each other!

Fuck ever risking that again!

I'm not sure offended would be the right word. I'd probably gawp at him trying to work out if I'd heard right and then burst out laughing when I realised I had.
He'd be an ex pretty shortly after that.

@Pinkbonbon

I'd be too busy filing the divorce papers to be offended.

@Interrobanger

Yes I’d be offended. I’d ask him to wear a bigger dick to bed.

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