Wanted me to wear make up to bed

[JerkintheMerkin]

My EXP used to ask me to wear make up to bed. I never did but it got me thinking - would you be offended if your partner asked you the same?

@Interrobanger

Yes I’d be offended. I’d ask him to wear a bigger dick to bed.

😂😂😂😂😂

My DH wouldn’t ever ask, and I would be extremely unimpressed with any man who did. If I choose to do so because I want to/enjoy it that’s an entirely different matter.

If I do ever get into bed made up then my DH is very concerned that sleeping with it on might cause me irritation and/or discomfort and always reminds me to wash it off.

@Interrobanger

Yes I’d be offended. I’d ask him to wear a bigger dick to bed.

This. I actually would do this.

OH isn't keen on me wearing makeup at any time, even lipstick. Doesn't stop me but says he loves me as I am, wants to kiss me and not the contents of my makeup kit.

As a man, I think that's a disgusting request to have made.

Poor you.

I’d write “FUCK OFF” in lipstick on my face😍

@Interrobanger

Yes I’d be offended. I’d ask him to wear a bigger dick to bed.

Depends. If it was just asking you to put red lipstick on occasionally I’d not take offence (I’d class it same as sometimes wearing lingerie etc) but full face every day no that’s odd and bad for skin.

Have asked partner if he'd feel like it was a treat for him if I wore make up.

He is baffled and confused. He says chip butties for tea would be 'a bit of a treat'. Make up would be something I'd have to tell him I was wearing for him to notice (and I don't normally wear any...)

@WiddlinDiddlin

Have asked partner if he'd feel like it was a treat for him if I wore make up.

He is baffled and confused. He says chip butties for tea would be 'a bit of a treat'. Make up would be something I'd have to tell him I was wearing for him to notice (and I don't normally wear any...)

chip butties are definitely better than make up

@Interrobanger

Yes I’d be offended. I’d ask him to wear a bigger dick to bed.

This !

I can see where PP is coming from. I suppose it depends if you intend to do the deed or keep the romance going when you get back. If so, look at it the same way as clothes - if you've both dressed up for a date night then it does pour cold water on things a bit if, as soon as you step through the front door, you both change out of the evening wear and into pyjamas. To each their own though, I guess.

I wonder what he was doing to 'keep the romance going?'

When we 'dress up for date night' of course we get changed when we get home. Sex in Spanx, a push up bra and control tights isn't very comfortable for either partner.

I would be very mad and it would be a dealbreaker for me. Being comfortable in your own skin is important to me in a relationship, I wear make up as and when I want but not at the command of my husband. Also, dirty make up sheets are grim and would put a stop to any bedroom antics anyways IMO.

Is be offended if he asked me to wear makeup ANYTIME, let alone in the dark…..

I’d be*

@LampLighter414

Depends on context.

Going on a nice date night and as soon as you're home the make up comes off and frumpy pjs put on, I can see why they might ask if you can keep it on for sex. It's an odd thing because make up is used to look your best out in public (e.g. on a date) but then typically you don't want to keep up that effort the moment you get back in the door, even though it probably is a bit of a treat for partner if you kept it on for a bit. Like you'll make the effort for the strangers out there but won't keep it on for a bit at home and make the effort for your partner IYSIM. So wouldn't say unreasonable here.

However if its at the end of a regular day e.g. spent at home, where no makeup has been worn and the expectation is for you to put it on for a romp or indeed sleep all night in it. That is definitely unreasonable.

Wow almost a single voice of reason in a sea of madness.

Man the utter lunacy of most posters here. You look your best all day for strangers but if your DH asked you to glam up for him, you'd be filing for divorce?

What about perfume? Is that allowed? Is personal hygiene not an improvement on 'the real you', or do you allow a shower and brushing teeth?

I don’t think I’d mind if he particularly liked me looking my best with makeup.

Hell I like me looking my best!
That’s why I wear it. To enhance my best features and give me confidence.

I just can’t be arsed nowadays. Perhaps that’s why I’m single….!

I have things I like too, like I may have a favourite aftershave or a favourite body spray or shirt or leather bracelet or whatever on a particular boyfriend. I would be happy to ask if they wouldn’t mind wearing it and would hope they’d be honest and say no if they didn’t want to.

The thing is that in a fair and healthy relationship where both partners communicate (and can easily say no with no huffs or shite afterward) it could be fine to ask for the little things. When you’re ordered or coerced or huffed at to do or wear something, it’s far from right.

I also think it depends on context. My DH might sometimes say “ooh, keep your make up on for a bit” if sex is on the cards and I’m headed to the bathroom to take it off before I get into bed. Which is fine and a bit of a giggle. But he wouldn’t ask me to put it on specifically or do it to imply I’m too ugly to shag without it! That said, I’d probably see “ooh, will you wear loads of makeup in the same vein as being asked to wear stockings or sexy lingerie. It’s fine if both parties see it as fun, but not if you don’t want to. (As with most things related to sex, to be fair.)

@Interrobanger

Yes I’d be offended. I’d ask him to wear a bigger dick to bed.

😂 👏🏻

@BellatricksStrange. Hooray! so totally agree with you.
No self respecting woman would sleep with her husband without washing off all perfume etc etc
Some of the comments here remind me of Mrs Cholmondley Warner

I think some MNers have been taking lessons from her.

I'd have worn make-up to bed for him ... clown make-up, and then kicked him out with my over-sized clown shoes. The tfwt.

No, I don’t wear make up/‘look my best’ for strangers all day long either. I reject entirely the notion that I need make up to ‘look my best’, and with it the notion that I owe anyone (including myself) an obligation to ‘look my best’.

I choose whether or not I want to wear make up based on my mood and whether I want to or not. The vast majority of the time I don’t wear any at all, at least at the moment - I go through phases for months or years at a time. But even when I do wear it I wear a light touch. I like subtlety.

All that is by the by, though. What’s important is my DH has never ever presumed the right to tell me he wants me to or doesn’t want me to, because he knows that what I do with my own face is no one’s business but mine. He has always been completely accepting of me regardless of things like make up/hairstyles/shaving or not etc, and delights in my company whether or not I’m made up, have made an effort or am ‘looking my best’.

'Given time the conditions for conjugal unpleasantness will become possible'

I’d be no good I religiously take off every scrap of make up before bed when I shower 😬

Looking back he was very hung up on looks.