My husband of 9 years has only been clean from substance abuse a few months. We have a child together who is 8. Once proven clean and in therapy I allowed him back on a firm final chance. There was a lot of depression during his substance abuse which turned into emotional abuse onto me during that time. Since coming back he’s been utterly fantastic. However last night whilst alone together he went to smoke a cigarette and I immediately knew he was using again & after hours of more lies he admitted it. I am thinking court mandated contact with our son in a centre if he wants to put that effort in & otherwise nothing whatsoever. He drove with our son less than 24 hours before taking it again. I don’t think this was the first time either. He’s been in therapy for weeks 1 time per week and comes out telling me I’m not supportive enough & therapy makes him realise a lot of negative things about me. However I have never had substance abuse problems and value my life and health and also have some pretty serious health conditions to deal with myself. Before he used last night I had even spoken to him of how much that time effected me as going into a new year is a little emotional at times. I am so upset and disappointed. I’ve already removed him from our family home which is only in my name. He drives recklessly also regularly not with our son but with me and I beg him to stop ect a lot of adrenaline focused behaviours. I am heartbroken all over again but knew giving this final chance came with risks and I was willing to try one final time. I am truly done but where do I stand with contact for our son? What do you guys think? Just to add they’re really close and a fantastic relationship and he’s an amazing father (somehow) the best I could ask for to be honest but it’s the only reason I’m finding this decision SO HARD.