Hi so I have a DP we've been on and off for years now, we have 1 DC together and I have a DC from a previous relationship.
DP suffers bad mental health, he mostly feels low/sad, he gets angry over small things and then starts shouting and belittling and in the past has called me names on a regular basis and I have no doubt it will happen again, the only reason we were on and off is because any argument he would pack his stuff and go.
Anyway back to my main point, he's getting worse, he is speaking delusionally, he's a conspiracy theorist (nothing overly wrong with that) but he now believes certain people are AI (Artifical intelligence) who are in his life to suck all his energy, he believes his parents are AI and he has even suggested I might be one too because I don't understand him, I don't listen to him (I do but he doesn't see it apparently), to him every person on this planet who are negative are AI (something I imagine he's watched on bitchute website), he's incredibly paranoid that if he gets therapy they will use his medical records against him at a later date (I've told him they don't and that they aren't allowed to do that, he says I'm too trusting of them (them being the mental health professionals and the doctors/nurses in all medical professions)
He believes he's got truama from his upbringing but refuses to talk to his parents about it (or a therapist) he refuses medication as well.
He was suicidal last night and wouldn't allow me to call an ambulance or the police to do a welfare check saying if I did he would hate me forever and because our DC is with him and his parents for a few days SS would of been contacted which he said would then ruin his life even more and he'd actually do what he was saying he wanted to do.
Eventually he calmed down enough to go to sleep but kept saying he was leaving in the morning (running away) I've explained that running away doesn't solve anything etc and that he really needs to get help but he point blank refuses and as tempting as it is to send the therapy forms off in his name behind his back I know I can't do that. His parents don't really seem to care, or maybe they do but since he won't get help they've given up trying I don't know 😕
He's acting really unstable at the moment, he does have a weed and alcohol problem, in which he smokes weed and drinks alcohol every evening and it is becoming an issue (more so the alcohol)
He himself is becoming more and more delusioned/paranoid and depressed and anxious as the days go by, he flits from wanting to be a dad to wanting his old life back and speaks at times like he almost regrets our child together, because we can't do things because we have kids. The funny thing is, he does whatever he wants anyway and I'm the one looking after the kids. Our relationship is grossly unequal in every single way, but that's a whole other thread.
My question is how the frick do I get him to accept the help he desperately needs when he's so paranoid and delusional about the very people trained to help?
I'm in the throws of compassion fatigue if I'm honest.