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First time staying over at new guys house

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Fidgety31 · 27/12/2021 10:15

What do you take with you ?!
It’s a long time since I’ve stayed at a guys place. So what would you take with you ? Do you take pyjamas ?
It will definitely involve sex - which is great. But what do you wear in the morning if you haven’t packed anything ?
Any tips appreciated !

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Milomonster · 27/12/2021 12:18

This is lovely! I hope you have a fabulous time!

crosbystillsandmash · 27/12/2021 12:29

I'd take a massive/oversized t-shirt to slip on in the morning and clean pants!

AthenaPopodopolous · 27/12/2021 12:43

Not pyjamas. Wear a sexy nightie or cami set. No man wants to get into bed with a granny, not on the first overnight anyway.

valnevavaxx · 27/12/2021 12:46

In my single days I’d have planned my outfit for the evening around wearing something that could easily then be worn to bed after the shagging ie a t-shirt. However if you end up sleeping naked then putting on last nights outfit the next day that is absolutely fine too and often when I did- if you’re hanging round the next day he can lend you a t-shirt I’m sure.

Take clean pants, a toothbrush and your makeup bag with you- it’s all you need!

AthenaPopodopolous · 27/12/2021 12:49

Tell us how your night goes OP, so I can live vicariously through you. I have been single three years now and no chance at overnight passionate frolocking as I have young kids at home. I miss sex! And men, handsome fit ones.

RAOK · 27/12/2021 12:55

I hope you have the best time!

Candleinthebreeze · 27/12/2021 12:56

@AthenaPopodopolous

Tell us how your night goes OP, so I can live vicariously through you. I have been single three years now and no chance at overnight passionate frolocking as I have young kids at home. I miss sex! And men, handsome fit ones.
Call me ;-)
FinallyHere · 27/12/2021 13:40

Toothbrush, clean knickers.

If you are not comfortable walking round naked the next morning, wear one of his shirts.

Great look and you can decide how many buttons to do up. .

Sillawithans · 27/12/2021 14:01

I was recently in this situation and I brought nothing!

Didimum · 27/12/2021 14:09

@AthenaPopodopolous Jesus. ‘No pyjamas, no man wants to go to bed with a granny’. If a guy ended it with someone over pyjamas or was put off by it, they’d be an absolute arsehole anyway. No thanks.

HaggisBurger · 27/12/2021 14:14

www.bouxavenue.com/cami-sets/marnie-satin-and-lace-cami-set/209196_10IV.html

I have numerous sets of these as my “sleepover” pyjamas. They are v well-received by my fella who has yet to see any of my myriad pairs of flannel / “real life” pjs in 6 months. I can’t sleep naked myself - it’s odd. Happy to be naked for most of the time - just not when we settle down to sleep..,

HaggisBurger · 27/12/2021 14:16

Have lots of fun. I follow Rosie Green on insta who never fails to make me smile in recognition about dating life in your 40s (you may be much younger op) www.you.co.uk/rosie-green-the-problem-with-grown-up-sleepovers/

Flyinggeese1234 · 27/12/2021 14:26

Oh hang on, I think I need to retract an earlier post, when we’re saying ‘pyjamas’ I was thinking shorts and cami type thing, defo not anything thermal or novelty or elderly.

HaggisBurger · 27/12/2021 14:31

@Sillawithans

I was recently in this situation and I brought nothing!
If you knew you were staying over, why would you not just bring a clean pair of knickers and a toothbrush?? Unnecessarily grim morning after. Different if completely unexpected…
Fireatseaparks · 27/12/2021 14:36

@Sillawithans

I was recently in this situation and I brought nothing!
Yeah I could understand this if you went back with someone unexpectedly after a night out our something, but if it was a planned night like the OP's and you didn't at least bring a toothbrush or clean underwear then 😳
Original poster
Fidgety31 · 27/12/2021 16:09

Thanks for the pyjamas ideas !
I’m 45 btw !

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HaggisBurger · 27/12/2021 16:31

Main thing is have lots of fun @Fidgety31. I didn’t sleep a wink the first night I stayed over. It was so odd sharing a bed with someone new.

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Fidgety31 · 27/12/2021 16:45

@ShortySara
First proper time
We’ve had a drunken quickie on the sofa and a bit of fumbling but that’s it ! 😂

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AnneSally2 · 27/12/2021 17:03

I always took loungewear while staying over at partners houses.Nicer and not as casual as pjamas but comfy and cosy. I always bought them in colours and shapes that suited me so j felt cute enough but was relaxed. And yes, toiletries, a slip is a good idea for sex and to sleep in, slippersocks or similar, change of clothes(do you know what you're doing the next day? Pack for that too. Something a bit nicer in case you go out for breakfast/lunch.

Bagelsandbrie · 27/12/2021 17:06

This is exciting Grin

I think as long as you don’t bring a huge suitcase and announce “Honey, I’m home!” when you arrive pretty much anything goes Grin.

100problems · 27/12/2021 17:13

OP I am begging you; please Rick up as though it's your first term at Hogwarts with a giant trunk and midnight feast.

In reality; a slinky cami set, sweatshirt, undies and leggings for going home (can also wear SS over cami set), small wash bag and hairbrush.

givemepiece · 27/12/2021 17:16

I'd borrow a bit T shirt of his in the morning, cute!
Pack clean knickers, leggings, hoody for the journey home

Ooh exciting!

GregTheEgg · 27/12/2021 17:26

I would just borrow a t shirt and some tracky bottoms from him if I wanted to lounge about. Not sexy enough to pull off the man’s shirt in the morning look, and wouldn’t want to seem like I’d over thought it Grin

Have a lovely time Flowers