Christmas gift from husband. How would you feel?

[intimeforchristmas]

My husband gave me a gift that made me feel sad. One was a dry shampooo spray ( I have asked him to buy it in the supermarket a day before as he was shopping but not as a gift but regular purchase) and the other DOVE set with antipersporant. When I questioned such gift he said that I am ungrateful and next year I will get nothing. He also said that he bought it for me because I go to the gym and I will probably need it. I do not know what to think about it.

Oh I think I'd prefer nothing!

It's not a gift, it's a regular purchase for personal grooming that costs a few pounds. So would he like some hair gel and a lynx set next yr. I think I'd maybe do that to make a point!

This seems to be about more than the gift.

Do you feel he takes on 50% of the life load? Parenting, life and home admin? Or do you feel like he is an extra child?

He knows the gift matters to you, therefore it should matter to him.

I am always surprised when people say they do not have time.

Here is the thing. Christmas happens at the same time each year therefore you have 1 year's notice.....how much more time do you need?

To avoid having wrong, cheap, unwanted presents we always discuss in advance about 1 month - 2 weeks before what we would like for Christmas & birthday and never have a problem like that.

I don't need unwanted suprises. Sometimes a husband can guess and really get it right, sometimes he can't because he is not a mind reader.

I'd rather get what I would really like and appreciate it. Not something just for the sake of it.

Many men don't see it as a big deal at all and many wives have certain expectations they don't communicate well.

Congratulations on buying your new iPhone! :)

@intimeforchristmas

It is a lot to think about. He still thinks I'm exaggerating and it's just a gift and that he has too much on his mind to worry about such things. You see, it hurts a lot because I do a lot at home and around DD. Since September I have been working 3 days a week and only these days he has to pick up dd from nursery and give her something to eat before I arrive. I organized Christmas, cards and gifts for everyone and I expected only one from him. Yesterday he tried to rectify the situation and cooked lunch, did the washing and cleaning. I am very hurt by his reaction to my complaint more than a gift and I decided to buy myself a gift from a joint account. Therefore, I thanked him for the new iPhone.

Ha ha good idea

@WineThenMisletoe

I am always surprised when people say they do not have time.

Here is the thing. Christmas happens at the same time each year therefore you have 1 year's notice.....how much more time do you need?

This ^^