He has a fetish

[BootySOS]

My new sexual partner (well, early days, but it's heading that way) and I have been getting on really well. I find him very attractive and enjoy spending time together.

He has told me he likes to be 'teased'. Mentioned it more than once and I think it might be quite a big thing for him. What I don't know is what I am supposed to do? To make sex enjoyable for him, incorporating 'teasing' I might be quite inexperienced and I don't get it. What does it mean. I have googled it but I am still not clear and it mostly brought up porn videos which I didn't want to watch.

[quote tarasmalatarocks]@fuckoffImcounting. Couldn’t agree with you more— if I find myself single again at 60 I’m genuinely not bothering. I honestly cannot be arsed with pandering to specialist peccadillos because they’ve done too much porn over the years[/quote]
Totally agree. I used to be into something in particular. My fiance 30 years ago wouldn't do it. My husband 20 years ago was dubious but gave it a go and found he enjoyed it so all good.

Nowadays I wouldn't mention it at all. I don't want to be the continuation of a porn video.

Just watch,or read, fifty shades of grey . very boring, but you might get a few ideas.

@Hawkins001

A message to others, yes we may not always know how genuine a person may be, but on the flip side for the effort made in non helpful comments, instead why not try to help and be more instructive with your experience and perspectives that you may think could actually help ?

🙄 and maybe you can be a little less sanctimonious ......😁

@Houseofmirth66

Teasing is stuff like saying ‘oh what a tiny little willy. I’ve never seen such a pathetic little worm’. If he’s telling you that up front then it’s a significant part of his ability to be aroused. I’d avoid. Unless you want to have your own sexual desires ignored so he can focus on his own.

Op you sound so desperate to impress him!
When are you ever in a place to admit you want more?

Be honest and sure of yourself and strong. Your old enough like you said to not follow him around like a teenager.

Teasing is really broad.

Maybe he wants you to visit his workplace whilst only wearing a trench coat & stilletos. Or maybe he wants lap dance accompanied with lots of body licking and kisses

But first thing that came to my mind was 'edging'. Bottom line is you need to ask him.

I could be wrong but everything about your posts scream your emotional attachment to this guy is just as great as your physical one. Tread carefully because unhealthy dynamics thrive in opaque situations.

Yeah you shouldn't be sleeping with someone anymore if you've developed feelings and ge us just treating it as fun. If he doesn't want what you want, walk away. Adapting yourself to suit his likes in the bedroom is not going to make him want a relationship with you.