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He has a fetish

108 replies

BootySOS · 24/12/2021 18:18

My new sexual partner (well, early days, but it's heading that way) and I have been getting on really well. I find him very attractive and enjoy spending time together.

He has told me he likes to be 'teased'. Mentioned it more than once and I think it might be quite a big thing for him. What I don't know is what I am supposed to do? To make sex enjoyable for him, incorporating 'teasing' I might be quite inexperienced and I don't get it. What does it mean. I have googled it but I am still not clear and it mostly brought up porn videos which I didn't want to watch.

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deeplyambivalent · 24/12/2021 19:15

Hm. Sounds like hard work. Has he expressed any interest in what you're into, OP?

FourTeaFallOut · 24/12/2021 19:15

I don't know but could you tell him to clean the house to your personal standard before he gets any and then leave him to it for the day? That's the kind of fetish I could get behind.

Mumof3confused · 24/12/2021 19:27

Striptease?

Mysticguru · 24/12/2021 19:40

Edging is what he's talking about is my guess.

Ghostlyglow · 24/12/2021 19:43

If you really like him, then ask. He might be feeling a bit nervous about just telling you, so is giving you the opportunity to ask.

CinnabarRed · 24/12/2021 19:54

I’d also assume edging - but just ask him.

Original poster

BootySOS · 24/12/2021 20:00

Thank you.
Off to Google what edging is then

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youvegottenminuteslynn · 24/12/2021 20:05

Why not ask him though OP so you're sure? If you're shagging him then you should feel comfortable enough to discuss sex with him.

DolphinFC · 24/12/2021 20:17

It will mean different things to different people.

No point guessing you'll have to ask.

ElectraBlue · 24/12/2021 20:31

Just ask him for clarification , 'being teased' is pretty meaningless unless he explain specifically what that means for him.

Could be anything from him fancying a striptease to the fact that he is trying to hint he is into BDSM...

If you sleep with someone you should be able to communicate on what you both enjoy. Especially if it is a FWB arrangement and the whole point of it is sex!

DoncasterHombre · 24/12/2021 20:53

Him - "I like to be teased"

You - "Okay, fatty"

NeverDropYourMooncup · 24/12/2021 20:58

Ask him.

And once he lets you know what the fuck he's going on about, nod knowingly, say 'Ah, I see, Okay, well, you get yourself comfortable there and I'll be - oh, hang on.'

And then sneak out the back window and go home without telling him.

That'll tease the fucker.

HailAdrian · 24/12/2021 20:58

0/10 for effort

TheVolturi · 24/12/2021 21:02

He didn't say he likes Teas did he 🙄 he might just like a good brew.

Pinkbonbon · 24/12/2021 21:07

Hardly a fettish is it?

I mean, it's just being a little creative in the bedroom before getting down to buisness surely?

Unless he means like teased as in insulted, emasculated and dominated ect...

HeadToToesNo · 24/12/2021 21:07

Honestly, if you are going to be fucking the guy you should feel comfortable taking to him about fucking him.
Communication is key to a decent sex life.

Elmer83 · 24/12/2021 21:11

I knew a man (feb of my bff) who liked to be teased…she thought, very innocently, to “play hard to get” type of tease. She was wrong, turned out he was into being humiliated during sex. It didn’t last too long!!

Elmer83 · 24/12/2021 21:12

“FWB” not feb

Yummypumpkin · 24/12/2021 21:14

@BootySOS

Is he a sexual partner or an actual boyfriend

Not really a boyfriend. FWB arrangement. But I like him.

Problem.

NynaeveSedai · 24/12/2021 21:14

A) If you like him and you haven't had sex yet how are you FWB?
B) are you dominant?
If you aren't dominant then it won't work with a submissive man. It just won't. You'll just make yourself uncomfortable trying.

Llkjdhwhgsyoqobf · 24/12/2021 21:15

@NeverDropYourMooncup

Ask him.

And once he lets you know what the fuck he's going on about, nod knowingly, say 'Ah, I see, Okay, well, you get yourself comfortable there and I'll be - oh, hang on.'

And then sneak out the back window and go home without telling him.

That'll tease the fucker.

Ahahaha

Llkjdhwhgsyoqobf · 24/12/2021 21:16

@NynaeveSedai

A) If you like him and you haven't had sex yet how are you FWB? B) are you dominant? If you aren't dominant then it won't work with a submissive man. It just won't. You'll just make yourself uncomfortable trying.

I mean you're not always one or the other...

TooManyAnimals94 · 24/12/2021 21:20

@Pinkbonbon

Hardly a fettish is it?

I mean, it's just being a little creative in the bedroom before getting down to buisness surely?

Unless he means like teased as in insulted, emasculated and dominated ect...

This was my first thought. Unless he means humiliation I think teasing and edging are fairly standard sexual preferances.

Why can't you ask him?

EarthSight · 24/12/2021 21:23

@BootySOS

My new sexual partner (well, early days, but it's heading that way) and I have been getting on really well. I find him very attractive and enjoy spending time together.

What I don't know is what I am supposed to do

Quite frankly OP, if you don't feel comfortable discussing this with him or are too embarrassed to ask, you shouldn't be having sex with him.

Llkjdhwhgsyoqobf · 24/12/2021 21:25

You sound quite young op, please don't just Google things! You're both adults right?

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