I earn 50K (FT) and DH earns 12K (half time). I’ve been paying for pretty much everything since we moved 6 years ago and he gave up his job. He got the new job about 4 years ago but I still pay for everything (like he might pay for the odd few pounds, maybe £10 per month). My take home salary is about 3K and his is about 1K but I can’t save as financing the whole family of 4. He pretty much saves his whole salary. I said I want him to start paying for 1/4 of the bills, food, family expenses (proportionate to his salary). He says this isn’t fair as I earn far more and it wouldn’t be worth it to him to continue working if he is was ‘losing’ this part of his salary. We have always had separate finances. I’ve proposed a joint account that we both pay half or 2/3 of our salary into. I would still pay for everything over that. Who is being unreasonable?