Should I invite DH? Quick responses please

[alltheprettythings]

I have an Christmas eve party this weekend with a group from a hobby I do. Members only so DH not invited.
He has been a bit weird about me going - said things like "dont look too lovely on Saturday night" wish you weren't going out" and questioning why I am getting a taxi with others/not driving when I don't drink a lot. I feel a bit suffocated and controlled (or trying to).Due to cancellations a couple of tickets have become available and open to partners. Do I invite him? We don't go out enough so in some ways this would be nice. However he won't know anyone ( so I will feel I can't leave him) I don't want to subliminally encourage his attitude towards me going out without him, and he will want to leave earlier than I want to ( he has work the next day) writing this I'm not feeling i want him to come but feel bad about it.

alltheprettythings

Am glad to read that you went out without him.

I feel also for your children growing up with such a person for a father; it will affect them in their relationships too as they have learnt a lot of damaging lessons.

Your description of him was telling; what you were describing there is really an abuser. Many such abusers use depression too as justification and or an excuse for their behaviours. What if anything has he done to address his "depression"; nothing I would think. You're also describing the nice/nasty cycle within your most recent post too, I would think things are good between you two only when you become completely subserviant and compliant to him.

I sincerely hope that his recent actions gives you somehow the push you badly need to free yourself and your kids from your abuser.

@Aphrodite31

I think you should invite him. Why not? Let him see what he's worried about is nothing.

He's not a child. She doesn't have to convince him of that

The fact he said don't look too lovely is really horrible

Glad to here you're going on own. Your line about walking on eggshells gave me the shivers

Did you have a good time at your party last night OP? Did your husband give you a hard time - or did he accept your right for separate events in your lives? 🌹

Go out have fun and leave his controlling ways behind at home
For me I would come home later as I am an adult and as long as my wife knows I am safe and approx time I am due home I would not expect pressure to come home early or not go !
The above of course works both ways
I think this type of control is likely to escalate