Should I invite DH? Quick responses please

[alltheprettythings]

I have an Christmas eve party this weekend with a group from a hobby I do. Members only so DH not invited.
He has been a bit weird about me going - said things like "dont look too lovely on Saturday night" wish you weren't going out" and questioning why I am getting a taxi with others/not driving when I don't drink a lot. I feel a bit suffocated and controlled (or trying to).Due to cancellations a couple of tickets have become available and open to partners. Do I invite him? We don't go out enough so in some ways this would be nice. However he won't know anyone ( so I will feel I can't leave him) I don't want to subliminally encourage his attitude towards me going out without him, and he will want to leave earlier than I want to ( he has work the next day) writing this I'm not feeling i want him to come but feel bad about it.

No

Don't invite him. You gave three good reasons for not wanting to have him there.

And have a chat with him and tell him straight you don't like what he is saying to you because it feels like he doesn't trust you/wants you to stay home.

God absolutely not.

No.
And turn your phone off too.

Nope
And look as lovely as you want on Saturday

Absolutely not.

If you have a good relationship, yes, I would invite him. It might calm him down and after all, it's Christmas Eve.

Oh. It's not Christmas eve. Anyway, my thoughts haven't changed

No. Once done he will expect to come all the time. He is being controlling

No, I wouldn't invite him. Is he always like this if you make plans?

Absolutely not. But, if you don’t go out much make plans with him to go out another night.

No, definitely not. His behaviour is worrying.

I think that’s a unanimous no then!!!!!

Is he trying to ruin your evening out? Really weird.

I'd be addressing the behaviour too, especially if you currently don't have kids.

No. Not after his weird behaviour. Your an adult, you can do what you like - just because your in a relationship doesn't mean you need to stay home chained to the oven.

I suggest you divorce the controlling bastard. This nonsense never gets better.

Oooo, maybe one person thought you should, the person who originally imagined it was Xmas eve … possibly imagining motives too.

His motives are actually v questionable!

No. a) he's being controlling and b) you won't relax thinking you have to worry if he's having a good time. Go, look lovely and have a great time.

Oh and if you don't go out very much perhaps he can arrange a nice evening somewhere for the two of you on another evening.

Your husband is a control freak. Don’t invite him.

No. Don’t invite your husband because I feel that by doing so it will be the start of him spoiling your hobby for you.

@TheDogsMother

Oh and if you don't go out very much perhaps he can arrange a nice evening somewhere for the two of you on another evening.

Yes. This could be the time to have a look at their social life and their private time together as a couple.

No, dont invite him.

No.

No, go have a great time. You won't if he goes too.

Later you need to address his controlling tendencies.