New partners comments on my niece

[Londongirl899]

He's 47. I'm 33. My niece is 29. We grew up together and so we do interact quite abit on social media etc. She is attractive. Very petite and photogenic. Confident in her clothes,goes out and gets dressed up regularly and she's also a photographer so has some lovely photos. She's most likely the better looking one out of us to most men. Its never been an issue though She's my niece and I love her.

Anyway new relationship. Mentioned my niece to him on and off as we are family. He's not met her. She doesn't live local. He sees her on my Facebook ofcourse. She split from her partner 3 weeks ago and my new man suggested we could go see her for a weekend. Got his phone out and looked at train tickets. We never went,I just humoured him that maybe one day soon I'll arrange to see her. He then proceeded the next day to say she's a pretty girl. He said he can tell by her photos she's a photographer though and he Betted she wasn't always as made up. I told him she was not always made up and would often be makeup free and agreed she's a pretty girl.

She got a puppy and I showed him a photo and said there was a video of its first walk but I couldn't share it with him. He told me to tell her to send the video to me so I could show him. He then brought up that she was a good looking girl again. I jokingly said something like yes when I'm with her I feel the less attractive one. The subject moved onto my friend I'd caught up with and he got confused halfway through and said oh I thought you was on about your niece sorry.

I'm wide awake at 3am with it going over in my head. She wouldn't be interested in him and I know they won't likely meet anytime soon. But its abit of a shit feeling really that he's openly telling me he looks at her photos and had seen she's good looking. But he does occasionally tell me if someone's attractive. Just like he says what he doesn't find attractive. He always calls me beautiful too and tells me his friends think he is lucky to have me and some have mentioned they think I'm attractive.

Would you be upset by this?

He sounds like a gross old perv.
Can't you find guys your own age to date?

He sounds a creep who fancies her.

Bin him and protect your niece.

She’s your age, how would you feel about this situation if it was reversed? Don’t entertain this man who’s old enough to be her fucking dad!

You and she deserve infinitely better!

@IrishKatie1971

Throw this one right back into the pond. My now ex used to do this a LOT. He was on dating sites behind my back. If someone will behave like this to your face, then what on earth do you think they will do behind your back? Relocate your self-respect and get rid.

My ex would also comment on other women's looks and I too caught him several times using a dating app behind my back. Their interest in other women is a red flag and a clear lack of respect.

You should dump him because he’s too old for you irrespective of the creepy comments.

Dump the creepy old man. What are his qualities? Why would you want a future with him? He is a lot older than you, and he sounds like a perv

Take the blinders fully off. There are red flags everywhere. What an absolute creep. He doesn't even attempt to reel in it, does he? Gross.