Withdrawal method

[ClaireF992]

My husband and I have been using the withdrawal method since my son was born a few years ago, I had a condition during pregnancy which means I can't use hormonal contraception. I spoke to my husband about getting the copper coil but he said why when this is working for us. I know the risks but I would be happy to fall pregnant by accident. He doesn't want anymore children and for this reason he is VERY careful (pulls out with plenty of minutes to spare). We last had sex around 2 weeks ago during my fertile window, once in the afternoon and then again in the early hours. About 5 days later I got really bad cramps in the evening and I thought I was coming on my period early, but it never came. Now i'm on either tomorrow or Friday but I have somehow convinced myself the cramps were implantation pains and I'm pregnant! Realistically how likely do you think this is? We have had sex in my fertile window before and never had a problem.

If you are pregnant, he has no right to be upset about it when he was insistent on using such an unreliable form of 'birth control'. I struggle to imagine that anyone who doesn't want children would use this method. He must either be very badly informed or he assumes you would get a termination.

If he doesn't want another child, then he has to take some responsibilty for birth control. Vasectomy seems obvious.

@ClaireF992 have you tested this morning?

[quote mswales]@TheGirlCat
"@mswales No it is not similar to condom effectiveness at all. Condom effectiveness is 96%.

Withdrawal is 80% per the 1 in 5 example."

Sorry but it absolutely is. See the studies various people have posted. With perfect use withdrawal is 96% effective, in reality it's 78% effective. With perfect use condoms are 98% effective, with normal use they are 83% effective. Very similar.[/quote]
Yes you've just repeated what I said. That in REALITY it's 78% effective.

That is the bottom line.

Well that's how I got pregnant so...

@TheGirlCat. yes I know I've just repeated that it is 78% effective. Needed to repeat that because you were saying I was wrong to say it was about as effective as condoms.

In reality it's 78% effective and condoms are 83% effective. That is the full, much less misleading, bottom line.

And the additional line that done properly it's 96% effective and condoms are 98% effective is pretty important too for anyone proper information on this topic!

@ClaireF992

Thanks everyone, I'll take a test first thing in the morning (if no period arrives). I would be ok with it but I think my husband would be devastated :( Will let you know either way! Thanks again xx

Then he should have worn a condom. Withdrawal is not a good method of contraception.

Withdrawal/fertility awareness method can be effective if it’s used with meticulous accuracy - I’m talking tracking periods, doing ovulation strips, taking basal body temp every single day, noting changes in cervical mucus etc.
It worked well for DH and I for 2 and a half years between DCs 1 & 2….theb we both got really drunk on Boxing Day 2019, didn’t check my fertility awareness app, and obviously it happened to be slap bang in the middle of my fertile window. DC3 is now 2 years old!
I’m getting a coil at the end of the month and DH has also booked an appointment to discuss getting the snip.
No more “oops” babies for us

No glove, no love. Simples

@FinallyFluid lol, I'll fill that one for future reference.

How did the rest go?