Pregnant and treated like shit!

[SickOfCrap]

I am 34 weeks along, have Gestational Diabetes and cannot be any more stressed than I already am.
DH's ex decided to leave the country for 2 weeks (or so she says), and left my step kids with him. Now I am 8 months pregnant and had absolutely no say on that.
He agreed with her behind my back, never asked for my opinion, when we had talked about having people here before... We agreed we wouldn't have the kids until my baby is born, because for f&s sake I need a break!
Now, he goes behind my back, agrees with this. Treats me like shit and I feel like I have nowhere else to go.
I'm so angry, I am so frustrated and tired.
I just want to rest. The house is always loud now. I might have to be induced, and I'm dreading having to have my baby when his kids are here. I might have to do everything ny myself, even the birth...
What would you do?

My husband has always been a rude person to me. He treats friends, family, coworkers, everyone nicely and everyone loves him. Guess he saves his worst part for his wife, because he knows (or thinks) he can get away with that.

Please don't focus on issues with your step kids once your baby arrives. Focus on leaving this arsehole you've made multiple threads about. He sounds absolutely horrible and your relationship is toxic.

How much contact does he usually have with his existing children?

I'm guessing their mum is the primary carer and he's a disney dad? Presume they have a regular contact arrangement that's not full weeks at a time?

So it's fair enough for her to ask him to have the kids extra, but it's also fair enough for him to decline, especially in the circumstances. I think the biggest issue here is that he should absolutely have discussed this with you before agreeing to so much extra, irregular, contact. What will happen if you go into labour early? Is there a backup plan for someone to mind his kids so he can attend the birth? Or is he just going to get you an uber and send you off to the hospital by yourself?

It is however, unreasonable for you to demand that his kids don't visit at all (maintaining their regular contact as much as possible).

If he’s expecting you to do all the work of feeding them and cleaning up after them then I get why you’re annoyed. He should be looking after them, but you shouldn’t be making them feel unwanted. They existed before you met him.