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3 hours till he leaves for work and I need the toilet

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SorryZac · 27/10/2021 19:44

I had a lovely time today with LO. We went to some soft play place. It was a last min invite from a friend. She was there with her 4 kids and OH. My LO had a wonderful time playing with my friends children. When it was time to go they asked if we'd like to join them for a bite to eat, I declined but they insisted on us coming so we went and again LO had a lovely time throughout it I just kept looking at his face and he was just so happy.

I was so envious of my friend she has a lovely life, I know she has struggles but she has a husband who is always there for her. I was watching him with the kids, hes just proactive and a doer.

Anyway me and LO got home about an hour ago. I had a shower and went up only to find my OH was still asleep. He went to bed at 8am(works nights). This is what he does unless I tell him to get up. His priority is sleep. Any time he has off is spent sleeping or watching tiktok. He looks at me then says come and give me a kiss I said no you dont smell very nice atm.

Anyway he went to the toilet then, then comes and sits on the sofa and starts rubbing his face against me, I moved my body away. He does it again and again and I'm asking him to stop but he just keeps doing it to the point where I'm having to really push him away and shout and I can feel my eyes watering because hes not listening, my LO grabs my hand at this point and says something and I calm down and OH backs off. I said to OH why I didnt like what he was doing, he then proceeded to swear at me and call me am idiot, so I said your a 40 year old man calling me an idiot cz I didn't want to kiss you or want you to touch me because you have morning breath and crap on your face. He then kept saying shut the fuck up and kicked me in my knee. I took LO and said all because I didn't want you to touch me you kicked me for no reason, he then got the half eaten cereal bowl LO had and told me to fuck off and threatened to throw it at me. I just came straight upstairs with LO. I hate that LO was wiping my tears and saying 'dont be cry mummy'.
Hes ruined our lovely day as always.

I need the toilet but I'm going to have to go downstairs past him, which I really dont want to do.

OP posts:
SorryZac · 28/10/2021 20:15

LO woke up this morning asking to go to the toilet, so I took him straight downstairs to the bathroom, I had to pass the living room, OH was on the sofa on his phone, saw me and went up to bed.

I didnt want to be in the house with him so I've just tried to keep myself busy today with LO, I took him out to eat, he loves the atmosphere of being in a restaurant and looking at the menu. OH wasn't home when we got it, probably at work.

I've just sat down and managed to catch up on all your posts. Thank you for all your kind words and sharing your personal stories with me, it really does give me that push.

I'm going to take a few days to get my head straight.

OP posts:
Chakraleaf · 28/10/2021 20:34

That feeling of never feeling comfortable is horrid. It took me a long time to really feel safe in my home, you will feel so free and happy without him.

tigerbreadandtea · 28/10/2021 20:48

Please please please find the strength for your children. Break the cycle.

youvegottenminuteslynn · 28/10/2021 20:55

Here when you need us OP. You can do it Thanks

EarthSight · 28/10/2021 22:29

Call Women's Aid and the Police but don't tell him, and don't tell him if you leave. Don't even write a letter in case he finds it first. Set yourself free OP.

Embracelife · 28/10/2021 22:33

Get out to friends or family
Don't look back
Report to police e
Your dc should not be intervening between two adults

AgathaX · 29/10/2021 10:51

Please speak to women's aid, or your health visitor, GP, a teacher at DC school. Anyone safe. Just reach out to someone for support.

Iputthetrampintrampoline · 29/10/2021 20:47

OP this may seem blunt and I apologise if it does but do you remember how you felt when you were being abused by your father and then mother all those years ago? I am sure you do,Please Please do not let your little one grow up like you did. If you cannot leave for you then please leave for your little one.It takes strength and courage to leave,to have nothing, to live in a poxy bed and breakfast with sod all ,but my goodness when you wake up free of violence and mental torture with your lovely innocent little one beside you smiling and you realise you are both safe its worth everything in the world. I promise you If you can;t do it for you do it for your little one please. You can do this you can escape and be free and truly live in calm,peace and safety, Stop thinking just do it I promise you this time next week you will be a different person if you can find the courage and life will be worth living and building a future will become everything to you. Your little one is counting on you to live a safe and happy life and you can make it happen, I wish you well

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