Why do you think he responded like this?

[EndlessRose]

I know what I think this is but I'm curious to see how others would interpret it.

It's not exciting - sorry about that!

My boyfriend goes out with his friends one evening a week for a drink. His biggest complaint since lockdown lifted has been that everywhere is so quiet. He says he likes striking up conversations with random strangers.

Except that, when we went out on Friday, a random stranger struck up a conversation with us. Well me, because my boyfriend just ignored him. And was coldly silent to the extent that in the end this man said, "Well, I think I'm going to go now," and awkwardly left.

Seemed a bit odd for someone who claims that random chats with strangers can really make the evening.

I know what I think was going on but what's your first thought?

best f luck

No, I don't think he'll agree. And if he turns it back on me I'll just say that that is exactly why I'm ending it and walk out.

I know people always make out it's so easy on here but, unless it's only been a few weeks, it isn't that simple in real life.

Writing a message (which can contain ad much or as little explanation as you choose), hitting ‘send’ and blocking is actually incredibly simple. You’re just unwilling to do it.

The dignified conversation that you want to have, which ends with you walking away when he turns bolshy? Now, that is indeed extremely difficult.

@EndlessRose

Tbh, I think it's been apathy rather than lack of confidence that's stopped me.

Very encouraging sign Rose ... "oh god, I can't even be arsed to dump the twat now ..."

Just dump by text.
He doesn't deserve any more effort than that.

No, I don't think he'll agree.

Then why bother with an in-person dumping?
Is it your ego, (understandably) holding out for some kind of validation that you are right to dump him for his behaviour? He'll never agree to that!

But why do you need him to?
This is a breakup, not a negotiation.
He will manipulate, punish, insult, deny, twist, rage, crocodile tears ... whatever. Anything but agree with you.

And this will hurt you, & give you even more shit to need to process - so why do it?

Just dump him.

I seriously do not get this preoccupation of trying to get through to these nasty pricks.

Who cares.
Move him on.

He's not worth the effort.

It's ego wanting to get through and for him to have a light bulb moment.

Who cares.
He's awful.
Just have him gone.

When you think of the nasty utter pricks that manage to marry ridiculously tolerant women and have children, he must be some piece of work to have not managed it.

I don't expect him to have a light bulb moment. I don't expect to get through to him.

I suppose I've just been quiet for so long I want to say the words put loud.

Did you get rid today Op?

Hi OP, I've been catching up on your thread and was wondering how today went.

You come across as someone who knows their value, don't put up with his shit

@SVRT19674

You stay with a guy you think is an idiot because you like his friends? Interesting. I wouldn´t bother and eff numbers.

It sounds like she more than "likes" on of his friends

How did it go, OP?